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As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others. ~ Maya Angelo  I’m sure you are thinking . . . Living Life as a Teacup? What does that mean? Stick with me and I’ll explain. Do you find yourself in a place of helping others? Many of you naturally help others in your family. You may help people in your line of work. Perhaps you volunteer. Maybe you are the one everyone goes to because they know you will get done whatever needs to get done! Some days it may seem like all you do is take care of your children or do things for your spouse or partner. Then there are those of you who are taking care of ill parents. What about all the people at work or in your community that you help? The list goes on and on as to all the people in your life that you are helping on a daily basis. I am amazed at all that you do to help others! We certainly need that in the world perhaps more than ever. And yet, at what expense to yourself are you helping others? Don’t get me wrong. I feel it is important to help others! We certainly need to be helping each other during these unprecedented times. I would ask you to pause reading this for a minute though, and ask yourself when was the last time you took care of yourself. Yes, you. When was the last time you did something for YOU? If the answer is yesterday, I congratulate you! If you can’t remember when was the last time you did something for you, then let’s look at that. I can hear what you are thinking or saying. “I don’t have time to do anything for me because I’m so busy taking care of my child or my mother or I’m working 10-hour shifts.” I understand you are busy and have responsibilities. Maybe it is time to look at that list of responsibilities and see if you need to change some of the priorities. You must be your #1 priority! You can’t be second or tenth on your list of priorities. If you don’t take care of you, how can you take care of anyone else? As you continue giving and doing, at some point your body or mind will say “enough is enough”! You will be forced to stop to take care of you. Now would be a good time to get back to the teacup. I use to say “You need to fill your cup up first and then let the extra overflow to others.” When you are filled with energy, good health and a positive attitude, then you can share the excess with others. Then I spoke with a very wise person who said to me that I give so much to others that I need to serve others from my “saucer”. I didn’t know what she meant. She explained that I need to think of myself as a beautiful teacup sitting on a saucer. She told me that I could fill my cup up first and then let the excess spill over to the saucer. And the excess in the saucer is what I was to give to others. Not a continual flow out of my cup to others that I constantly had to keep flowing. Some of you may feel this is selfish or you can’t do this. When you take care of you, it helps everyone around you. You are a better mother or spouse or son or co-worker. Think what this world would be like if we each took care of ourselves! I challenge you to find a way to give to yourself first before others. It would be ideal if you could do something every day but if that seems too big of a challenge, then do at least one thing this week for you. If you feel in your busy life that it is impossible to find time in the day for yourself, then get up 30 minutes early, take 30 minutes during your lunch hour or 30 minutes before you go to bed. Make yourself a priority! You matter and you are deserving of it. If you don’t do it for you, who will? Time to become the teacup, fill your cup up first and let the excess flow into your saucer. Do it for you. Do it for everyone in your life. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. ~ CS Lewi  It’s that time of year, where it seems as though there is a long pause between what was and what is about to happen. You know, that window where we look back on the past year and we look forward with anticipation to the upcoming year. This year, what are you seeing when you look back and even more importantly, what do you envision for the upcoming year? Regardless of what you have experienced this year, it can be perceived as the most difficult year of your life or the most rewarding year of your life. It’s about your perception and beliefs. Are you a cup half full or cup half empty person? Yes, everything changed in 2020. Everyone on this planet was affected in some way this year . . . jobs lost, friends and family died, isolation, fear, separation, anxiety and so much more. How we function individually, as a country and all of humanity is forever changed and there is no going back. The bigger question as you look back is how have you changed? What does it mean for you? Are you resisting what has happened? Or, can you stay in the moment and go with what is presented and make the most of it? It’s a great time of year to reflect on you and your life. Why are you here at this time? What is your true, soul purpose for being on Earth during this time of great transition? How has this year shown up for you? What changes happened for you? What do those changes mean for you and your life? It’s all in your perception. Look at what “good” happened this year and focus on that. Perhaps there are more positive things that happened this year than you realize. First look at yourself, then your family, country and the world. What are all the ways the world changed for the better? As you focus on the positive things that happened within and around you this year, can you take all of that and carry that into the new year? Imagine the Highest and Best for yourself, all those around you and the entire world. As you visualize this, what can you do to contribute to make the world a better place? Some of you may have the belief that you can’t do anything that will make a difference in the world. You see others doing things that make a huge impact. That’s wonderful and beneficial but so are the little things that we all can do. You are capable of doing something to make a difference! You don’t have to “do” something or “be” someone great to affect change. Little things can have a profound effect! Start with yourself. What can you do every day or at least 3-4 times a week that would be a positive change for you? Get up early and write in your gratitude journal or do stretches or meditate are just a few examples. Then try doing things for others . . . your family, friends, people you work with or strangers. Say hi to someone as you pass them in the store or while you are walking. Write a note or call a person that has a lot of challenges in their life and let them know you care. As you “do” for you and those around you, it ripples out into the world. You could continue to do all these things on a regular basis. You will impact the world more than you may ever know. Of course, there are community and world projects that could always use your energy, gifts and talents. You are here at this magnificent time of transition on the Earth. You have a purpose through this time of change. It is no accident that you are here. How will you participate? Being the best version of you is doing “enough”. It’s not about doing, doing and more doing. It is in the quiet, small actions that often the most profound effect is felt. At this time between, take time to reflect on this year. Then with all your imagination, visualization and feelings, create the world you want to live in next year. So many choices and ways of making a difference. What do you choose for the new year? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self. ~ Wayne Dyer  Can someone please tell me? What does it mean when they say the word . . . self-love? I know how to love others. I love my family. My parents who raised me, my siblings who grew up with me. My spouse of all these years, and . . . my beautiful children. How can I love myself? What does it mean, what does that look like . . . self-love? I’m told it is important. All these years of loving others. That’s what I was told was necessary, that’s what I was made to believe. Always do for others and never . . . take time for yourself. How do I unlearn all the truths no longer mine? I was told it was selfish to take time for me. Old beliefs must be released . . . self-love. How can I make myself a priority? It feels so foreign to take time for me. Five minutes of quiet deep breathing, and time long overdue to . . . read a favorite book. Can I do this for me? One step at a time to become stronger within . . . self-love. I do this for me, I do this for you. As I learn how to love and experience love of myself, I am better able to love . . . everyone, including you. Will you do this also? Give yourself permission Know you are deserving and worthy . . . time for yourself. Do this for you, do this for others. Love yourself fully and completely. Know that you are special and loved more than you could know. . . self-love. We all can do this. Love starts with me and doesn’t end with you . . . self-love. Love of self and love of others. A gift you give yourself and all others. The gift of self-love that turns into love of others . . . self-love and love. What a treasured gift . . . self-love. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The key to change . . . is to let go of fear. ~ Roseanne Cash  What is going on in your life in this moment? With so much going on out in the world, have you been able to stay present in your immediate world? Are you moving forward, perhaps on a different path than a year ago, but none the less moving forward with your life? If you are not moving forward, what is holding you back? What are you afraid of? Are you so afraid that you have stopped living? Don’t allow fear to stop you. What can you do that will set you free of fear? We all have gifts and talents that are so needed right now in this world. You are special and you have a unique gift that no one else possesses. You might feel that you have nothing to offer to anyone. I’m here to tell you that you have much to offer! You might feel you can’t offer anything on a grand scale that would make a difference. That’s okay. The “little” things are just as important as the big things. You being you can make a difference. Your kindness, your thoughtfulness matter. You being positive and upbeat matter. A kind word to someone who is down can make a big difference in their day. Your words may help them get out of the dark hole they are in. You may feel “stuck”. I hear some of you saying that you are waiting for “things to get back to normal”. The normal we use to know is no longer going to part of our current world. Everything has changed! There may be a new normal and yet, we are not even sure what that will be. Fear is running rampant on the Earth. Many things are not certain. Some things have come to a standstill. Because of this, many people are almost paralyzed with moving forward in their lives. Regardless of your age and situation, I would encourage you to go within and take an assessment of what you have learned and done over the course of your life. I feel certain you will find many talents that you could share with another person or group of people. Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.~ Mother Teresa Start small if necessary. Take a baby step but just start! One person loves to sew. A teacher friend asked her if she could make hand puppets to use when teaching her young students the alphabet. The teacher wanted a puppet for each letter of the alphabet. By helping the teacher, this person is now affecting the lives of all the students. What a win-win-win situation. The person loves to sew, the teacher has a creative way to teach her students and the students have a fun way to learn! Maybe you have a dream to create or do something that seems big and daunting. There is no better time than the present to get started on that dream. The world is different now and many people are creating home-based businesses. Can your dream become a reality from your very own home? In pursuing your dream, you might have to collaborate with others. There is power in numbers so why not take that chance and reach out for support with your dream. Who knows, by doing this you might just help someone else have their dream become a reality also. I have had the pleasure of helping a some of you start on a new path in your life journey during these uncertain times. During the unknown, maybe it is also time for your dream to become real. Don’t wait for the “right” time or for things “to get back to normal” . . . start now. You matter. You have a gift or gifts to share with others. Step out your way and share those gifts with others. Take that step to free yourself from the fear. You and all of us will be glad you did! Thank you for having the courage to do so. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Be brave and create the life of your dreams. Dare to strive for spectacular. ~ Amy Leigh Mercree  How is your world? Not the big expansive world out there with all of humanity in it. I’m talking about the world within you and around you wherever you are in this world. What world are you creating for yourself? Are you even thinking about creating your world? Yes, you have the power to create your world. There is so much going on in the outer world right now. Some of you are experiencing profound life changes you couldn’t even imagine a year ago. Everyone is experiencing what is going on in the bigger world in their own way. Do you feel stuck? Don’t know which way to turn or what to do? In spite of what is happening in the world, if you pay attention, there are glimmers of possibilities for a new life. Please don’t allow what is happening in the world to cause you to stop “living”. What gets you excited when you think about it or you do it? What pulls at your heartstrings? Sometimes you may even have tears of joy it feels so good. When you feel this way about something, it just makes you feel alive and joyful. When was the last time you felt this way about something? Many of you may be on autopilot and don’t feel you have the time to be passionate about anything. Are you bored? Or, you are so busy you just can’t even think about the last time you did something that made you joyful. Time to change that! How are you feeling about what is going on in your life? Are you excited to get up each day or do you have to drag yourself out of bed because you are in the same old rut? In the blog You Are a Master Creator! I wrote how you can be the creator of your life. While you are creating your life, why not create a life full of passion? Take a minute and recall an experience from your life that was exciting for you. Maybe it was baking with your mother as a child. Perhaps it was a vacation that turned into quite an adventure. Do you have a hobby that use to bring you joy but you stopped doing it for whatever reason? I know that each of you reading this has at least one thing that you enjoy doing that just fills your heart with happiness. I bet some of you have a smile on your face just thinking about it! When was the last time you did this? If it was recently, I applaud you! If it was a while ago, how can you get back to it? I also can hear some of you saying there is nothing you are passionate about. Okay, is there something you really like? If given the opportunity to do anything for just the fun of it, what would that be? There is a simple exercise to help yourself. Brainstorm everything that you love to do. It can be anything! For example, you may love to work with people, exercise, be outdoors, play golf, create with your hands, be your own boss, etc. Once you have your list, then look at what jobs incorporate many of the things you love. Some of you have dreams that you have held onto for a long time and done nothing about them. Now is a great time to make them a reality. No matter how big or small, take the first step to bring them into your life. Some of you may be saying you don’t have the money or time to be passionate about anything! I challenge you to change your beliefs. Get up early or be brave and schedule an hour during the day to pursue your dreams. Money a factor? There are so many free resources available in our world today. There are also many people who are willing to spend time with you to share their talents. YouTube is a wealth of information and it costs you nothing! Take time to research what and who is available to you to help you with what you would like to do. Begin to take steps to do what makes you happy. Even if you only have limited time to do so, do what you can! When you are doing something you enjoy, life just feels so much better. Today, more than ever, when you feel good about yourself and what you are doing, it makes a huge difference for everyone! Find your joy, your passion, first for you and then let that flow out to others. Thank you for co-creating the world we would all like to live in! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The power you have is to be the best version of yourself you can be, so you can create a better world. ~Ashley Rickards  Change . . . the only constant in life. I look around And everything is changing . . . Everywhere. What does this mean for me? I am scared I feel paralyzed Not knowing what to do. Where to turn . . . How to move forward with my life. I feel the changes Within me Around me . . . Out in the world. Great resistance in the mass consciousness. Change can be difficult . . . Especially if there is resistance. Adapting and adjusting can be hard It’s all in the mindset. How to flow with the changes? The change begins with me. Recognizing it is time . . . To change Beliefs and conditioning that are long outdated. It all begins with that first step. No more hiding No more running No more avoiding. If I change myself . . . It changes the world. I will find the courage to take that step. First looking within . . . What beliefs are not mine What is my truth? Time to find the strength to begin. I am but one person . . . Change can start with me. One step at a time Walking the path of transformation I have the power to affect great change! What will my future hold? If I look too far ahead So much unknown . . . No guarantees. I stay in the present moment. In the NOW I know what is happening. I can make choices . . . See the results And affect change. I am the creator of my life! Now as I look within and around me Everything is changing And I feel . . . Empowered! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The true essence of the soul is revealing when we embrace the light and the shadows within ourselves. ~ Dee Waldeck  I look into the shadows. Not a place I often go, Sometimes too scary And difficult to see within. I know it is time to embrace the shadows. Rather than look with my eyes, I feel into the shadows with my heart. I don’t like what I feel, And yet I know that I must Consider all the shadows. It is time to acknowledge the darkness. I’ve carried these shadows For longer than I care to Unknowingly some within my subconscious. I’ve allowed the shadows to control me. This part of me buried deeply That I do not want to look at And that which does not want me to find. Time to release that control over me, To let go of what no longer serves who I am. What lurks in the shadows? The part of me that is not so nice, Ready for me to love it And give it some light. Not proud of what I find within me. I know what I find Has been a part of me Not the part I am on the surface But the part of me That often cries from deep within. All the shadow wanted was to be recognized. I ignored the darkness So it grew even stronger Trying harder for me to see it. Too painful for me to look at it. The shadows darker than I expected, The fear of what I would find, Paralyzing me. Not able to even glance at the shadows Nor go within them. I know it is time for me to be strong. I face the inner darkness Not always easy But oh, so revealing. I find appreciation for the shadows. It is time to give thanks For the darkness contrasts the light. Time to let go of the shadow side To allow for more light For me to fully shine the light from within. I look into the shadows. The place I now gladly go For great inner change Can happen there. Thankful! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Each of us has an inner room where we can visit to be cleansed of fear-based thoughts and feelings. This room, the holy of holies, is a sanctuary of light. ~ Marianne Williamson  How are you doing? Have you checked in with yourself lately? I mean “really checked in with yourself”. So much going on in the world, around you and within you. It's hard not to be feeling some level of stress and anxiety. Take a moment or two and really check in with yourself. Can you even put into words what you are feeling? Confusion, uneasiness, calmness within the storm, numbness? Some of you have said you are grateful for the time home with family and living a slower pace life with less or no rushing around in “busy-ness”. You might also be in a place of uncertainty, overwhelm, sadness, shock, grief, depression or fear. F. E. A. R. is a big one . . . it encompasses so many other feelings Whatever you might be feeling, please do yourself a favor and feel what you are feeling! Take time to look at what feelings and emotions are coming up for you. It can actually be harmful on many levels of you, especially emotionally and physically, when you ignore your feelings and stuff them. Rather than “stuff” these feelings, acknowledge them, feel them and then release them so they no longer hold you back. Many of you have told me that “old” feelings, triggers and programs are coming up. Again, a lot of emotional baggage is ready to be cleared and released. It is a time of great change and it all starts with you. There is no right or wrong way to feel or “be” during this unprecedented time on Earth. It’s okay not to be okay! There are days you can accomplish more than you did the entire previous week! Some days you can’t do anything but rest, even after sleeping through the night. You just have to honor what your body is telling you and how you feel. All of this is part of you becoming the new you in the new world. I heard from several of you that you can’t wait to get back to normal. My response has been and continues to be “the world will not get back to normal as we knew it.” We may have a new normal but we won’t go back to the old normal. For all our sakes, I pray the world doesn’t go back to the way it was! What would your ideal world look like? If you could, what kind of world would you like to wake up to tomorrow morning? What role would you have in this world? There are so many possibilities and potentials for your life and planet Earth. It starts with each one of us. This virus was a wake-up call for all of humanity. As difficult as it has been for many people, it has been a blessing in disguise. It has caused us as a collective to look at what we hold to be true for us as individuals and as a society. Have you taken time to examine what is true for you? If so, great! Are you fully committed to living in your truth? If not, it may time to check in with yourself and decide what is true for you! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you’ll see obstacles. ~ Wayne Dyer  So much happening. Around me, Within me, And in the world. I sense a myriad of emotions in the collective. Overwhelming fear, Unending anxiety, Deep sadness, Rising anger, Grief. What will the future hold? No one knows, Considerable uncertainty, Nothing seems as if it will be the same. I sit in isolation. Missing the physical connection with family and friends, I see their faces on the screen And hear their voices through the speaker. I miss the hugs, held tight to one another And kisses upon my cheek. An angel lands upon my shoulder. I hear a whisper in my ear, "Time to look through your eyes With a different perspective." I ask for clarity. "When you focus on the negative, You will see negative, Feel bad, Not be able to move forward And do what you came here to do. Look for the good. In others, Within you, In everything that is happening." I take a deep breath. Adjust my focus, Change my perspective, See the goodness in humanity, Notice the kind words And selfless actions. I see the good being done by many. I begin to feel better, I want to help others, My inner light begins to shine. I realize I am not alone in isolation. I can reach out and connect with others, In their time of need Or as they are in service. I, too, am part of the community As we all go through this experience together. All we have is the present moment. Of this I can be certain, Staying in the here and now, Creating my future. I sense new feelings within me. Strength from deep within, Hope abounds, Compassion, for me and for everyone, Peace and calmness, And, most of all . . . love. So much happening. Around me, Within me, And in the world. Grateful! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
It is only in our darkest hours that we may discover the true strength of the brilliant light within ourselves that can never, ever, be dimmed. ~ Doe Zantamat  As I sit here doing my best to find the words to convey what a lot of us are experiencing and feeling, I just can’t seem to find the right words. It’s so much more than the virus that is affecting us. So many things happening individually and as a collective. Each one of you is having your own unique experience in these unsettling times. Some of you have lost your job and are uncertain when and if you will be able to return to work. Some of you are working from home, adapting to a new way of being “in” the workplace. Many, if not most of you, are home because your state has issued a “stay at home” order or something similar. This can be a very scary time. There is so much fear on the Earth right now . . . not just where you live but around the world! This is hard on everyone. You can sense it in the collective. We are living through a huge wakeup call for all of humanity. I hear some of you say “I can’t wait till this all blows over and we can get back to normal." What is normal? I have said for many years that everything is changing. Here we are. Welcome to change! I believe all of this will cause us to have a “new” normal. Most of you have had your day-to-day life and schedule completely turned upside down. Many of you have more time at home. Depending upon your perspective, this time at home can be a challenge or a gift. With this extra time at home, what are you doing on a daily basis? Are you glued to the TV hanging on every word that is said and that causes more fear within you? Do you find yourself in your mind thinking and rethinking about what the future will bring? Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it or work around it. ~ Michael Jordan With a large number of you at home with family, there are different and perhaps more demands put on parents than when your children were attending school. As much as you love your children, you can’t lose yourself in taking care of them. You can’t forget about you and what you need. Now more than ever, it is so important to take care of yourself. Those of you who follow my blog, know I have written many times about making YOU your #1 priority. Self-care is so important! If you don’t take care of you, you won’t be able to take care of anyone else. Many of you are doing a good job coping and even exceling during this time. You are decluttering and repairing your home. Depending what part of the country you live in, you may be working in your yard and clearing it for new growth this spring. You are finding new ways to exercise at home. Perhaps you have found a new way to video chat with friends and family in other parts of the world as a new way of keeping in touch. Some of you are bringing forth creative talents you’ve always had but may have been hidden. You are writing that book you never had time to write. I’ve seen many beautiful paintings and craft projects displayed online. You may be finding that inner chef and baker that you didn’t realize you were all these years! These creative projects add so much to uplift all of us. Tough times never last, but tough people do. ~ Robert H Schulle During this time of slowdown and isolation, give yourself the gift of taking care of all of you . . . physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Find time to go within and look at what truly matters to you. Deep within you is your true essence, who you really are. It’s time for your hidden gifts and talents to come forth. You can also take care of you by staying in the present moment. When you find yourself scared of getting sick or wondering what the future will bring, bring yourself back to the NOW moment. In that moment, find something to be grateful for. When you are in a place of gratitude, it changes everything. One moment of gratitude can lead to another moment and another. Soon you will find that you have much to be grateful for. In that moment, you are alive and can trust that we are all going to be okay . . . no matter what that looks like and no matter the outcome. If at times you find all of this to be more than you can bare, remember that you are not the only one experiencing this. You are not alone. We are all going through this. And, together, we will come out the other side of this unprecedented time on Earth! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The two things in life you are in total control over are your attitude and effort. ~ Billy Cox  How is your world? Is your life flowing and are you moving through your day with ease? If you answered “yes,” I’m excited for you! And, I want to thank you for living your life that way as it is helpful to all those around you as well. Then there are those of you that feel you have good days and some days that are not so good. I would also guess that some of you reading this don’t feel like anything works out for you and you struggle on many days. You may feel like pulling the covers over your head when the alarm goes off in the morning. No matter how you feel each day, wherever you are living, you know that things are not as they use to be. Everything is different, changing in ways that are hard to describe, yet you know they are different. Often it is difficult to know how to get through what shows up for you in your daily life. Many people believe they can control what is happening in their life. To a certain extent, I believe we create some or all of our life events and experiences. And yet, we can have something happen that we know we would never have created that throws us completely off our path! We immediately think “Where did that come from and why me?” I had an experience last month that reminded me of this! I was feeling better than I ever have in my entire life. Yes, really, the best ever! I was eating healthy, exercising, sleeping well, my body was moving better than I had ever experienced. I just felt good on all levels of me. Then, boom! Out of nowhere, I got hit by a virus that knocked me flat on my back for a week!!! It was then that I realized that I can’t control everything. I thought I was doing all the right things to be healthy and feel good. Then I get sick and I knew that, for whatever reason, some things are out of my control – they are uncontrollable. You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you. ~ Brian Tracy This illness reminded me that I can control my attitude about what is happening in any moment. My attitude is a “controllable” and that no one but me can control it. Regardless of what is happening in my life, I can choose a positive or negative attitude about it. This experience also helped me see that a great deal of time and energy can be spent on things that are uncontrollable. I would rather devote my time and energy on something controllable than try to control and predict an outcome for an uncontrollable in my life. Letting go of what is uncontrollable is actually less stressful and very free-ing! Are there things in your life that you feel you must control that really are uncontrollable? Take time to review the last week or month. See if there are some things that you can let go of that really are out of your control. Let them go and see if a burden is lifted from you that you no longer need to carry. As things continue to change in your world, find ways to make life easier for you. Realize that you can let go of what is uncontrollable. Let go of what really doesn’t matter and focus on what does matter . . . YOU! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
Only do what your heart tells you. ~ Princess Diana  It has been an interesting start to 2020. There seems to be more excitement about the new year than any other year recently. I don’t know if it is because it’s a new decade or what! People seem ready for something new – individually and collectively. How are you doing in this new year? How are you feeling about the possibilities and potentials for this year? It can be exciting or scary because of the unknown but one thing is for sure . . . everything is changing! I’m sure you are aware that one of the most constant things in your life is change! With so much going on in the world and in your own life, it is time to get as comfortable as possible with change. Change is not always easy but, in the end, change can turn out to be very beneficial! Often without even realizing it, you get comfortable with where you are, doing what you do, being who you are. That’s beautiful and you can stay right there where you are . . . unless that’s really not who you are and what you are supposed to be doing! If that is true for you, you can make a change or often something will happen to cause you to make a change. Then there are many of you who are proactively choosing to make changes. That is fabulous! At times, though, you may feel like you have no choice in making a change, that outside forces are causing you to change. Regardless of how you make a change, you are still able to choose how you react to the change. You can resist the change or make the best of the change. If you are here on this Earth at this time, you are changing. There is no way you can be here and not feel the changes happening within and around you. Take a deep breath and take a moment to reflect on the past 5 years. How are you different? What changes have happened in your world and around the globe in the past 5 years that have affected you? Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~ Albert Einstein Change is happening more rapidly than ever. You can’t keep doing things the old way and expect the old way to work in the world we are living in now. It is time to find a new way of doing things. Time for you to do and be in a more heart-centered way. Yes, you still have to use your brain but it is time for your brain to be more connected to your heart than ever before. Your decisions are made now from your heart with love, love for yourself and others. The changes you make when made from your heart are more likely to flow and feel good. When you are trying to make a decision, about anything, stop and see how your decision “feels” to you. What does your heart tell you? Ask yourself, “How do I feel about xyz?” Or, “How does xyz make me feel?” If it doesn’t feel right, make a different choice. If it feels good to you, follow through with your decision. When you make choices from the heart that feel good, change becomes that much easier. If you have been one of those people who resist change or have difficulty making decisions, maybe this new way of making decisions can help you to be more open and flowing with change. Making decisions from your heart may just bring you results better than you can imagine! Here’s to you having a heart centered start to the new year and new decade! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
There is one art of which people should be masters – the art of reflection. ~Samuel Coleridge  It’s that time between Christmas and New Year’s where things slow down at the end of the year before the start of a new year. That feeling that you need to take a deep, long exhale after all that goes into the holiday planning and “doing”. You can finally catch your breath. It’s also the time of year when you tend to pause and reflect on the year that is almost completed. You look at where you have been, what you did, what you feel good about and maybe the things you don’t feel so good about. Some of you will also look at the upcoming year with great anticipation with what you want to accomplish in the new year. You may feel that it is more challenging to “exhale” at the end of this year than other years. 2019 was a challenging year. It turned us inside out while pushing and pulling us beyond our comfort zones. Collectively, out in the mass consciousness, there was so much going on while individually you felt changes in your own personal world. Regardless if you flowed with the changes or resisted them, you changed. When you take time to reflect on 2019, notice all the ways you changed from where you were a year ago. As many of you have observed, there is great change happening in governments, financial institutions, healthcare and other institutions in many countries. Around the world, no matter where you are, there is change in the air. It can be scary to watch these changes or be a part of them, and yet change can also be good. Changes have also happened in your own personal world this year. Jobs changing, moving to a new home, relationships ending, physical illness, or people dying and leaving you. As you reflect on the past year, you may know or feel differently about you . . . your beliefs, how you nurture yourself, your self-talk and how you love yourself. As changes happen in your external world, you can be sure there are internal changes happening at the same time or vice versa. If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. ~ Gail Sheehy No matter what, it is my belief that there can be something good and wonderful in whatever is happening. It may not always be obvious that good can come from a dear person dying or losing a job that provides food for your children. It can be devastating! Yet, in that moment, can you look for all the possible good that may occur from what just happened? I know from personal experience what this can feel like. I have gone through some things that could have been overwhelming and destroyed my spirit. Many people would ask me “How are you able to function and be so positive with all that you are going through?” Without fail, I would look for the positive even in some of the most horrible situations. Not always easy to do, but that is how I got through difficult situations in my life. By focusing on the good, it made the bad not seem so bad. See if this helps you the next time you are faced with an upsetting situation. Take time to breathe. Get into your heart center and look for something, anything, no matter how small that is a “good” part of what just happened. Believe that something wonderful will happen from whatever you are experiencing. Focus on the beautiful possibilities that now have an opening to come to you because of what just happened. Maybe a friend heard about you losing your job and that very day, his boss made an announcement the company needs to hire more help. You apply and you get the job which is better than the job you lost. There is just no getting around that turning bad things into good things is up to you. ~Deepak Chopra 2020 can be a turning point year for you if you allow it to be. Not only is January the start of a new year, it is the start of a new decade! Yes, there is much out there in the world that doesn’t look so good. It’s all in your perception. What will you “see” when you reflect on 2019? In that reflection, can you then come up with a vision for what you want for you, your family, the world in 2020? Who do you want to be with all these changes that are happening? You each make a difference! Thank you for taking a long slow exhale at this time and reflecting on what you can do to make a difference in the world. This in turn helps everyone else. I am grateful for each one of you and what you are doing to make the world a better place. Blessings for a new year and new decade that is beyond anything you could imagine! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give. ~ Ben Carson  So often at this time of the year, your thoughts go to what gift will you give a friend or family member for the holiday. Or, maybe you have a “wish list” of what you would like to receive. Commercials and ads begin to run in October for the holiday buying season and it seems as though the holiday season is getting earlier and earlier in the year. What if this season you took time to give the greatest gift of all . . . the gift of you? No matter what your spending budget may be, the gift of you cost nothing but your time and effort. You have many gifts to offer others and these types of gifts are priceless! You may even want to reconsider your wish list. Rather than a material gift, there may be something that you want to do that would be easier with the help of another person. Many will feel honored that you considered them to help you with something. They are helping you and it is uplifting for them. That’s a gift that goes both ways! The act of giving to someone is just as important for the person giving the gift as the person receiving the gift. You may have a hard time accepting gifts, payments or acts of kindness from others. Many people do. When you don’t accept what someone wants to give you, then you are denying them the joy of giving to you. Accept the gift and allow them to experience the joy of giving! I believe that most people truly prefer the gift of you over anything material. If you are having a hard time thinking of what “gifts of you” that you could give to someone, let’s look at some possibilities.
Gifts are given more at this time of the year than any other time. What if this year, you started a new tradition of giving the gift of you? Maybe this type of gift giving will become so popular that the holiday gift season will be all year long! As you do this and model for others, think about all the ways you are making this a better world for everyone! You being YOU is a gift!  Thank you for the gift of YOU. I am grateful for the gift of each one of you. Wishing you all the blessings and gifts of the season - joy, peace and especially . . . love. Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
When you are grateful – when you can see what you have – you unlock blessings to flow in your life. ~ Suze Orman  As I reflect on all that is happening in the world right now, I feel a deep gratitude for all of you who are making an effort, any effort, to be more authentic, more your true self. I would guess that those of you who are reading this feel the stress and pressure of living on Earth at this time. If you are not careful, you can get sucked right into the drama and chaos that is swirling around you, personally and out in the world. Nothing is as it once was. The world is changing at a rapid pace. I hear people say they don’t know what they are doing or where they are going. It is a confusing time to be alive and yet, it can be an exciting time to be alive!!! When you don’t know what to do, the one thing you can do is turn inward. Ask yourself what you can do for YOU in that moment. Many of you were taught to do for others, to put others first before yourself. You may have the belief that it is “selfish” to take care of you first. When flying on a plane with others, you are told to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. If you pass out from lack of oxygen, you won’t be able to help anyone! It is now known that when you give and give to others, you deplete your “reserves” and then there is nothing left for you. Imagine giving to yourself first, filling you up first, and then letting all the extra flow out from you to others! It is a more uplifting and less draining way of living. Please let me make it clear . . . I am not talking about you doing nothing for other people. I’m talking about finding a balance between doing for others and doing for you. This may be where you have to set boundaries and say “no” more often in order to take time for you. When you ignore you and your needs, wishes and desires, you are not helping anyone! Often without realizing it, you can become resentful, bitter and angry because you didn’t take time for you. Even if you think no one knows how you are feeling, your anger and resentfulness will be sent out in your energy frequency to everyone around you. They will feel it even if you do not verbalize how you are feeling! If you are thinking that there is no way you can take time for yourself in your busy day, I would encourage you to find ways to do even little things for you. Take a break, walk outside, clear your mind and get some fresh air for 5 minutes. Close the door of your office and sit for 5 minutes in silence and breathe deeply to reset yourself. Do something physical even if it is just walking up and down stairs for 5 minutes. Love yourself enough that you do something to show yourself that love. It can be anything big or small, just do something. Give yourself that gift. In this world that seems to demand so much from each of you, you must make it a priority to take care of YOU! At this time of year when people are especially in a thankful and grateful state of mind, I am grateful for each one of you and what you are doing for yourself. When you do what is right for you, it is right for everyone around you . . . including me. Thank you. I am grateful for the gift of you! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
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