If you don’t love yourself, nobody will. Not only that, you won’t be good at loving anyone else. Loving starts with the self. ~ Wayne Dyer Can someone please tell me? What does it mean when they say the word . . . self-love? I know how to love others. I love my family. My parents who raised me, my siblings who grew up with me. My spouse of all these years, and . . . my beautiful children. How can I love myself? What does it mean, what does that look like . . . self-love? I’m told it is important. All these years of loving others. That’s what I was told was necessary, that’s what I was made to believe. Always do for others and never . . . take time for yourself. How do I unlearn all the truths no longer mine? I was told it was selfish to take time for me. Old beliefs must be released . . . self-love. How can I make myself a priority? It feels so foreign to take time for me. Five minutes of quiet deep breathing, and time long overdue to . . . read a favorite book. Can I do this for me? One step at a time to become stronger within . . . self-love. I do this for me, I do this for you. As I learn how to love and experience love of myself, I am better able to love . . . everyone, including you. Will you do this also? Give yourself permission Know you are deserving and worthy . . . time for yourself. Do this for you, do this for others. Love yourself fully and completely. Know that you are special and loved more than you could know. . . self-love. We all can do this. Love starts with me and doesn’t end with you . . . self-love. Love of self and love of others. A gift you give yourself and all others. The gift of self-love that turns into love of others . . . self-love and love. What a treasured gift . . . self-love. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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The key to change . . . is to let go of fear. ~ Roseanne Cash What is going on in your life in this moment? With so much going on out in the world, have you been able to stay present in your immediate world? Are you moving forward, perhaps on a different path than a year ago, but none the less moving forward with your life? If you are not moving forward, what is holding you back? What are you afraid of? Are you so afraid that you have stopped living? Don’t allow fear to stop you. What can you do that will set you free of fear? We all have gifts and talents that are so needed right now in this world. You are special and you have a unique gift that no one else possesses. You might feel that you have nothing to offer to anyone. I’m here to tell you that you have much to offer! You might feel you can’t offer anything on a grand scale that would make a difference. That’s okay. The “little” things are just as important as the big things. You being you can make a difference. Your kindness, your thoughtfulness matter. You being positive and upbeat matter. A kind word to someone who is down can make a big difference in their day. Your words may help them get out of the dark hole they are in. You may feel “stuck”. I hear some of you saying that you are waiting for “things to get back to normal”. The normal we use to know is no longer going to part of our current world. Everything has changed! There may be a new normal and yet, we are not even sure what that will be. Fear is running rampant on the Earth. Many things are not certain. Some things have come to a standstill. Because of this, many people are almost paralyzed with moving forward in their lives. Regardless of your age and situation, I would encourage you to go within and take an assessment of what you have learned and done over the course of your life. I feel certain you will find many talents that you could share with another person or group of people. Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.~ Mother Teresa Start small if necessary. Take a baby step but just start! One person loves to sew. A teacher friend asked her if she could make hand puppets to use when teaching her young students the alphabet. The teacher wanted a puppet for each letter of the alphabet. By helping the teacher, this person is now affecting the lives of all the students. What a win-win-win situation. The person loves to sew, the teacher has a creative way to teach her students and the students have a fun way to learn! Maybe you have a dream to create or do something that seems big and daunting. There is no better time than the present to get started on that dream. The world is different now and many people are creating home-based businesses. Can your dream become a reality from your very own home? In pursuing your dream, you might have to collaborate with others. There is power in numbers so why not take that chance and reach out for support with your dream. Who knows, by doing this you might just help someone else have their dream become a reality also. I have had the pleasure of helping a some of you start on a new path in your life journey during these uncertain times. During the unknown, maybe it is also time for your dream to become real. Don’t wait for the “right” time or for things “to get back to normal” . . . start now. You matter. You have a gift or gifts to share with others. Step out your way and share those gifts with others. Take that step to free yourself from the fear. You and all of us will be glad you did! Thank you for having the courage to do so. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you’ll see obstacles. ~ Wayne Dyer So much happening. Around me, Within me, And in the world. I sense a myriad of emotions in the collective. Overwhelming fear, Unending anxiety, Deep sadness, Rising anger, Grief. What will the future hold? No one knows, Considerable uncertainty, Nothing seems as if it will be the same. I sit in isolation. Missing the physical connection with family and friends, I see their faces on the screen And hear their voices through the speaker. I miss the hugs, held tight to one another And kisses upon my cheek. An angel lands upon my shoulder. I hear a whisper in my ear, "Time to look through your eyes With a different perspective." I ask for clarity. "When you focus on the negative, You will see negative, Feel bad, Not be able to move forward And do what you came here to do. Look for the good. In others, Within you, In everything that is happening." I take a deep breath. Adjust my focus, Change my perspective, See the goodness in humanity, Notice the kind words And selfless actions. I see the good being done by many. I begin to feel better, I want to help others, My inner light begins to shine. I realize I am not alone in isolation. I can reach out and connect with others, In their time of need Or as they are in service. I, too, am part of the community As we all go through this experience together. All we have is the present moment. Of this I can be certain, Staying in the here and now, Creating my future. I sense new feelings within me. Strength from deep within, Hope abounds, Compassion, for me and for everyone, Peace and calmness, And, most of all . . . love. So much happening. Around me, Within me, And in the world. Grateful! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. ~ Ram Dass ~ This message was written from my heart for each one of you reading it. No matter what the day or time of year, please know how much you are loved. Dear One, You are such a beautiful, amazing, brilliant soul. Your light, your essence is beyond this world. If you could see your soul as I see you, you would be blinded by your light. Your essence is so magnificent . . . you are beyond anything you could imagine. You are so much more than what you see in the mirror. There is more to you than what you see, do and experience. You are honored and respected for all that you are and all that you do to make a difference here on this Earth. It is time on your Earth to step up and to step within to bring forth your truth, your magnificence of who you truly are. No more limitations, no more doubting. Believe, believe in all that you are and then more. You are so much more. You are so much more than what you recognize. It is not always easy and yet, I am here to tell you that you are here on this Earth at this time for a purpose, for a reason, for your soul evolution. And in that soul evolution as you serve your soul and serve yourself, what is it that you can do to serve all of humanity? What is it? What gift, what talent have you brought with you to Earth at this time? Go within and look deeply. You have gifts and talents that are waiting, ready to be brought forth in service to yourself and all of mankind everywhere. You’re a beautiful thread of the fabric, a magnificent piece of the puzzle. Without you, the world is not complete. I am so grateful that you are here on this Earth at this time. All the answers you are seeking, all the answers you desire are within you. You already know all that is important, all that is needed for you and your soul evolution. All the answers are within you, always have been, always will be. Do not rely upon others when you have the answers for you. Nobody knows better than you what is best for you. I ask you at this time of the great energies on the Earth, that you utilize these energies that are available to you to help you bring forth the gifts and talents you brought with you in this lifetime. Know that each one of you reading this carry the love frequency of 528 hz. You are forever connected in this frequency of love. Know and experience how much you are loved for the beautiful, amazing being that you are. No words to describe you, no Earthly words to use. Just know and feel within your heart how beautiful you are, how much you are loved. Remember this always. This love frequency is carried in every cell within your body. Know that everywhere you go, everywhere you walk, you touch people, you touch things and they are infused with this love frequency. You are the bearer of this love forever held within your heart center. No matter where you go, no matter what you are doing, it is always with you, always available. Make decisions from this place of love. Every interaction can come from this space of love. Thank you for being the carrier of this love frequency. Thank you for being love. In great gratitude and love for you! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
Happiness doesn’t result from what we get, but from what we give. ~ Ben Carson So often at this time of the year, your thoughts go to what gift will you give a friend or family member for the holiday. Or, maybe you have a “wish list” of what you would like to receive. Commercials and ads begin to run in October for the holiday buying season and it seems as though the holiday season is getting earlier and earlier in the year. What if this season you took time to give the greatest gift of all . . . the gift of you? No matter what your spending budget may be, the gift of you cost nothing but your time and effort. You have many gifts to offer others and these types of gifts are priceless! You may even want to reconsider your wish list. Rather than a material gift, there may be something that you want to do that would be easier with the help of another person. Many will feel honored that you considered them to help you with something. They are helping you and it is uplifting for them. That’s a gift that goes both ways! The act of giving to someone is just as important for the person giving the gift as the person receiving the gift. You may have a hard time accepting gifts, payments or acts of kindness from others. Many people do. When you don’t accept what someone wants to give you, then you are denying them the joy of giving to you. Accept the gift and allow them to experience the joy of giving! I believe that most people truly prefer the gift of you over anything material. If you are having a hard time thinking of what “gifts of you” that you could give to someone, let’s look at some possibilities.
Gifts are given more at this time of the year than any other time. What if this year, you started a new tradition of giving the gift of you? Maybe this type of gift giving will become so popular that the holiday gift season will be all year long! As you do this and model for others, think about all the ways you are making this a better world for everyone! You being YOU is a gift! Thank you for the gift of YOU. I am grateful for the gift of each one of you. Wishing you all the blessings and gifts of the season - joy, peace and especially . . . love. Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
When you are grateful – when you can see what you have – you unlock blessings to flow in your life. ~ Suze Orman As I reflect on all that is happening in the world right now, I feel a deep gratitude for all of you who are making an effort, any effort, to be more authentic, more your true self. I would guess that those of you who are reading this feel the stress and pressure of living on Earth at this time. If you are not careful, you can get sucked right into the drama and chaos that is swirling around you, personally and out in the world. Nothing is as it once was. The world is changing at a rapid pace. I hear people say they don’t know what they are doing or where they are going. It is a confusing time to be alive and yet, it can be an exciting time to be alive!!! When you don’t know what to do, the one thing you can do is turn inward. Ask yourself what you can do for YOU in that moment. Many of you were taught to do for others, to put others first before yourself. You may have the belief that it is “selfish” to take care of you first. When flying on a plane with others, you are told to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. If you pass out from lack of oxygen, you won’t be able to help anyone! It is now known that when you give and give to others, you deplete your “reserves” and then there is nothing left for you. Imagine giving to yourself first, filling you up first, and then letting all the extra flow out from you to others! It is a more uplifting and less draining way of living. Please let me make it clear . . . I am not talking about you doing nothing for other people. I’m talking about finding a balance between doing for others and doing for you. This may be where you have to set boundaries and say “no” more often in order to take time for you. When you ignore you and your needs, wishes and desires, you are not helping anyone! Often without realizing it, you can become resentful, bitter and angry because you didn’t take time for you. Even if you think no one knows how you are feeling, your anger and resentfulness will be sent out in your energy frequency to everyone around you. They will feel it even if you do not verbalize how you are feeling! If you are thinking that there is no way you can take time for yourself in your busy day, I would encourage you to find ways to do even little things for you. Take a break, walk outside, clear your mind and get some fresh air for 5 minutes. Close the door of your office and sit for 5 minutes in silence and breathe deeply to reset yourself. Do something physical even if it is just walking up and down stairs for 5 minutes. Love yourself enough that you do something to show yourself that love. It can be anything big or small, just do something. Give yourself that gift. In this world that seems to demand so much from each of you, you must make it a priority to take care of YOU! At this time of year when people are especially in a thankful and grateful state of mind, I am grateful for each one of you and what you are doing for yourself. When you do what is right for you, it is right for everyone around you . . . including me. Thank you. I am grateful for the gift of you! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
Just like the seasons, people have the ability to change. ~ Laurie Buchanan It’s that time of year! The days are shorter and the feeling of fall is in the air. The fall harvest, and especially picking apples, remind me of my grandmother’s famous apple pie. Such fond memories! For some of you, where you live the leaves are changing colors. The trees will soon be shedding their leaves in preparation for the winter. This is a natural process for the trees to be ready in the spring for new growth. Fall brings a feeling of great change for many of you. Something about the rhythm of nature affects your biological and inner core rhythms. It gives you a time to “pause” and transition from the summer to winter. This natural rhythm of the seasons reminds you of what you can do to prepare yourself for change. What can you shed to get ready for the next season in your life? Are there old tapes, beliefs or ways of being that no longer serve you? Like the trees, you may have some “leaves” that are ready to be shed. The trees shed leaves so that in the spring, a “rebirth” can happen where the old leaves use to be. What old beliefs or ways are you holding onto that are stopping your new growth? Perhaps this season of change will help you look at what needs to be shed in your life so you can move forward into “new growth”. If you are here on this Earth at this time, you are changing! Most of you can feel the changes in the world and within you. At times, it feels difficult to work through the changes. Other times, the changes just flow. Whatever is happening with you and in your world, you can be the creator of what “new” you would like in your life. Yes, you are capable and responsible for creating the life you want to live! Take a step for you, any step, even a baby step, to shed the old and then grow the new. When the winds of change blow, remember . . . sometimes what appears dead is simply preparing for a new season. ~ Jane Lee Logan Let’s look at some ways to get you started with this process. Take any area of your life – family, work, relationships, health, self-love or any aspect of your life where you want to make changes. Find about 30 minutes to do “brainstorming” about that area of your life. Several “rules” with brainstorming. You are making a list of any and everything pertaining to that subject with no thinking or judgement. After 30 minutes, look at your list and see what “jumps out at you” or feels right for you to pursue as a possibility. Here is an example of a brainstorming exercise one person did about her career. She wanted to make a change but didn’t know what to do because of her fear that she couldn’t give up a good paying job to do what she really loved! Her current position was sitting at a computer all day as a customer service rep for a large corporation. She listed all the things she would like in a career. Two things popped out when she looked at her list. She loved animals and being outdoors. She found a way to start a part-time pet sitting business on the weekends. She loved caring for and walking dogs. Soon she expanded her pet services and was busy during the week before and after her full-time job. Because she loved animals and enjoyed what she was doing, people loved her and the service she provided. Business picked up. It took time, but eventually she was able to expand her business to include part-time employees to help her. Needless to say, she is now enjoying what she does and is not sitting behind a computer all day! Gratitude for the turning of the seasons. May we attune our hearts to their enduring message of renewal. ~ Kristin Granger You can make big or small changes in any area of your life. Change is happening regardless of what you do or don’t do. Wouldn’t you like to be a part of the process of change and create what you would like in your life? As you go into fall, look for what you can shed to make room for the new. Maybe you will come up with a new recipe that becomes famous or create something else that everyone will want to have. You have gifts and talents that no one else in this world has! Believe in yourself and know that anything is possible for you! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. ~ Wayne W. Dyer Overall, how are you doing? How are you feeling? What is happening in your part of the world? Some of you have contacted me to ask why I haven’t posted a blog recently. It has only been four weeks since I wrote Your True Authentic Self but it feels like forever ago! I write as I am inspired and the past few weeks have seemed as though the days have been two hours long and not a lot gets done! There is so much going on in the world right now. Some days you can feel the stress, anxiety and irritation out in the mass consciousness. Closer to home, you may feel as though you don’t know who you are or what you are doing. Although you may feel that your world has turned upside down, if you look closely, I bet you can find some “good” in what is happening. Even in what may appear as the darkest moments in your life, what can you focus on that brings you out of the dark and into the light being motivated to move forward with your life? Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. ~ Eckhart Tolle When a relationship ends, you have to move out of your home or a job gets eliminated, it may feel like your world is falling apart. Can you look at what is happening and turn it around into something positive? You can be the victim or choose to take the experience and grow from it. Whatever you are going through, use it to be in a better place the next time. You will know what worked or didn’t work for you in the relationship that ended. You can make changes within yourself so that your new relationship will be stronger and more in alignment with who you truly are. In losing a job, think of it as freeing you to explore another job or career that may be more suited to what you love and are good at doing. In having to find a new home it gives you the opportunity to say “I’ve always wanted to live in the Northeast so I am going to look for a home there.” Major changes like these can be just what you need to get you moving in the direction you are really meant to move in. Perhaps you are not experiencing major changes but more of a daily or weekly change in one or several areas of your life. These changes can pile up on each other and begin to overwhelm you. You wonder when is it all going to end. That is where you, your attitude and the creator within you come together to make the world that you want to live in. What changes can you make that allow you to switch your world from overwhelm and frustration to one of endless, or at least several, possibilities? Look outside the box for these opportunities. Open yourself up to allow for new options. One thing is for sure, the world as we knew it, even five years ago, does not exist today! Whatever changes you are experiencing, major or small, know that they can help you get on a path of who you truly are and who you are meant to be. You can resist the changes or “go with the flow” as the changes occur. Either way, the changes will happen! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson As many of you have experienced, everything is changing and different on Earth right now. It may seem as though there is more “ugliness” out in the world based on what you see, hear and read in the media. It feels as though things held in secret for years, even decades, are being exposed and brought to the light to be dealt with . . . finally! Some of you are experiencing great change in your own personal world. Relationships ending, jobs changing, moving your home, financial concerns. Between what is happening with you and what is happening out in the world, it may be challenging some mornings for you to even get out of bed! Some of you have expressed fear about “what will happen to me?” Or, “I don’t know what to do.” It can be difficult to move forward in your life. Right now, with all that is happening around you and with you, it is important to make YOU your #1 priority!!! Your purpose is to be your true, authentic self! It is a gift you give not only yourself but everyone around you. What does that mean? First and foremost, you must be YOU! No more being who you think you should be for your parents, partner, friends, children and work colleagues. In every relationship, you must be your true self. Have you observed yourself acting as if you are like two different people? Like the chameleon, are you changing and adapting depending on whom you are talking with? Perhaps you show up being a particular version of you when you are with one person and then you are a completely different version of you when you are with someone else. It’s the time of no more secrets. Whether the truth is coming out in the bigger world or in your own personal world, the truth will continue to come out. It may seem as though this is not a “good” thing, but in the end, it is all good! We must recognize the “dark” so we can see the “light”. It also means that you must take care of you, first and foremost! If you don’t take care of you, then you won’t be in a good place to help anyone else. When you do what is right for you, with love, it is right for everyone around you. When you are not true to yourself, it affects you in many ways. It hurts you on some level emotionally, physically, mentally and even spiritually. It is time to stop being something other than who you truly are. Do you know the true you? If not, it’s time to figure that out. Are you ready to take the step to get in touch with the true you? The way you know something is true for you is how you feel about it. Your feelings are your truth. If a belief, someone or anything does not feel “right” to you, then most likely this is not lining up with you and isn't your truth. If you get a “pit” in your stomach and you almost feel sick about something, then you know that is not in alignment with your true self. If you can stay in your heart and feel about things, then you can make a heart centered decision about what is true for you. We are moving from a completely brain centered world to also including feelings from our heart centered world when making decisions. It has become more important than ever to show up as your true authentic self. Can you imagine a world with everyone being their true authentic self in every minute? There would be transparency in every relationship. What a beautiful world that would be! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. ~ Oprah Winfrey What do you speak every day? Not what is your native language but what and how do you speak. What words do you use in the workplace, with your friends and family? Are you authentically you in your conversations with others? Are you speaking your truth? Or, are you saying what you believe the person wants to hear from you? At times you may find yourself being very careful what you say to someone. You don’t want to offend or upset the person. You pick and choose your words. You aren’t necessarily lying to the person yet you are not being completely truthful either! I’m sure there have been times when you were very concerned about what to say to a person. Perhaps you weren’t sure how they would take what you had to say. You felt they may not hear what you were saying with the message that you intended. Communication can be tricky at times. Everyone comes from a different perspective because of their own life experiences. How you say something and your body language can also greatly impact how the message is received. Writing is another form of speaking. In the current times, it can be even trickier than speaking with someone. Tests and emails can be easily misread. Something you might want to consider when you are “speaking with writing." Your health can be affected by what you do and do not say. When what you say does not line up with your truth, it can affect your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. The stress of not speaking your truth can be obvious as well as very subtle. Either way, it still causes stress! When you speak your truth from your heart, it is beneficial not only for you but also the person you are speaking with. When you first speak about something and you speak your truth with love, there is no chance later that you will have to remember the “half-truth” you told earlier. There is stress caused simply by trying to remember exactly what you told the person in the first place. Best to speak your truth! You should feel comfortable speaking your truth no matter what situation you find yourself in. No matter what you feel or say about something, it will not “line up” with everyone. So why not speak truth as you know so it is good for you? Find someone you trust that you can practice speaking your truth in a “safe space”. A place where you know that you will not be judged or criticized for what you have to say about something. Speak from your heart in a kind way knowing that this is healthy for you on so many levels. Telling someone the truth is a loving act. ~ Mai Pancoas People come in and out of our lives. Wouldn’t you rather spend your life with people who honor you and your opinion even if they don’t agree with you? Love yourself enough to be true to yourself. Then take that truth and speak with others, in love, with love. Wouldn’t it be a much different world if we all would speak our truth in the language of love? Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
“Choose being kind over being right and you’ll be right every time.” ~ Richard Carlson It happens to all of us. We get in a discussion with a friend, colleague, family member or even a stranger, and you have a different point of view than the other person about what is being discussed. Sometimes it may not be a discussion but more of a heated argument! It seems as though it is human nature, in most incidents, that each person in the discussion has to prove their point and be right! It’s as if neither person will budge even a little from their thoughts and perspectives about the topic being discussed. They’re so set in what they think and believe, nothing will make them change their mind! It is fact that everyone has their own opinion and truth about things, events and people. We can agree or disagree on many topics and beliefs with others but we still have our own perspective based on what we have experienced in our life. Our uniqueness, truths and beliefs are an important thread of the fabric of humanity. Yes, it is very important that you are who you are and believe what you believe based on what is true for you. And, it is just as important that we remember that each person has their own truths. It doesn’t make them any more “right” than you and vice versa. Each thread of the fabric is important or else the fabric will unravel. The next time you find yourself in a discussion with someone and you do not agree with them, could you stop for a minute and listen to what they are saying? I mean really listen to what they are telling you. You don’t have to agree with everything being stated but you do have the choice to listen with an open mind and heart. You know what your life has been like and there is not one other person who has walked in your shoes to know exactly what you have experienced and felt. The same is true for everyone you meet. What if you take a moment to hear what they are saying and see if you can learn something new? What if you can expand your understanding of the world through this person and it helps you form new beliefs or truths for you? Stand up for what you believe in and what is true for you. That’s admirable. As you do this, though, don’t be so “right” and so closed minded that you cannot even think that there may be another “right” side to consider. We can’t know everything about everything . . . no one knows everything! If you understand that everyone has a different perspective based on what they have experienced in their life, then you might consider the following statement to be true. There is your side of the story, their side of the story and perhaps a different, truer side of the story neither one of you has considered! The next time you find yourself in a discussion with someone and you have very different points of view, perhaps you can choose to step back and listen with an open heart to what the other person is saying. You still don’t have to agree with them. You can continue to believe what you feel is correct for you. Maybe when all is said and done, though, it won’t be about who was right or wrong. It will be about who went to the greater length to consider the other person’s perspective. You each hold an important thread of the fabric. You can choose to strengthen those threads by being remembered for caring enough to listen to the other person. Or, you can argue your point to prove you are “right”. What do you choose? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
You cannot change anyone, but you can be the reason someone changes. ~ Roy T. Bennett Do you know someone who has said something like “when she quits drinking” or “when he gets married”, he or she will be a better person? They assume they really know the person and what is right for them, what will make them a “better” person. We can never really know what is best for another person or totally understand what is going on in their life. Every day you interact with other people - your family, friends, strangers or work colleagues. Most people have a lot going on in their lives and it is not always easy for you to figure out what is happening with them. In these interactions, you may feel as though you know what is most beneficial for them. We all do it . . . we offer help or advice believing we know what is best for the person. You may do this thinking you are helping them. No one knows what’s best for another person. Only that person knows what is best for them. What if instead of trying to understand or change someone else, you looked at what is going on with you and your life? You haven’t walked in someone else’s shoes so you don’t have all the facts and emotions of what their life has been like. You do know, however, firsthand what your life has been like! When you work on you and make changes within you, you affect everyone around you! Create positive change for yourself and you help others see the possibility for change within themselves. As you understand yourself more fully, it may help the people in your life understand more about themselves. Have you ever been in a discussion with someone and neither one of you can agree on anything being said? The conversation seems to escalate to a point where both of you are speaking with a loud voice in a tone that adds ‘fuel to the fire”. The discussion soon becomes a yelling match. What if, instead, you “stepped back” from the discussion, took a deep breath and then spoke in a more loving, calm voice? It is possible to change your vibration and frequency toward this person and greatly affect the tone of the discussion. You may still not agree with the other person but you will feel a lot better about talking with them from that place of peace and love. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. ~ Wayne W. Dyer I have experienced for myself that when I am irritated and agitated with someone and we are talking, that person seems to get irritated and agitated with me. It’s like a vicious cycle! They are matching the vibration and frequency of what I am giving out. Once I realize this and change what I am projecting out from me, the tone of the discussion changes. When I consciously change my thoughts and feelings about the person and come from a more loving perspective, it never fails me. That person changes their attitude toward me! I’ve had many people in relationships tell me they wish their partner would change this or that about themselves. My response is “one of the best ways to change another person is to makes changes with yourself.” You can’t change another person but you can change YOU! You can’t change others. You can only change yourself but that will change how others respond to you. ~ Springwolf You have the power to change yourself, your life, which in turn changes your world including the people in it! Make the changes to be the person you wish to be or to live the live you desire. Open the door, walk through it and lead the way for others to change. You can do it! Be the reason for change! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. ~ Lewis B Smedes Have you ever forgiven someone for something they have done? If so, that’s wonderful! Take a minute and look at that incident. Did you forgive the person for you or for them? I have had people tell me they reluctantly have forgiven someone. They did it because they believed it would help that person in some way. Believe it or not, the best reason to forgive anyone is for YOU! Often the person you perceive you need to forgive may not even be thinking about what happened. It’s not affecting them at all but it sure may be affecting you! The more you carry the feeling of unforgiveness, the more it affects and controls you. It can show up as an illness or disease in your physical body. It may come out in the emotions of anger, fear and irritation. Forgiveness on the other hand, can reduce stress levels. This helps the body be in a calmer state and improves your health. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everyone. ~ Maya Angelo I have met individuals who have carried anger toward someone for something that happened years, decades ago. That anger has become such a part of them and affects their day-to-day life. The longer this goes on, it seems to grow into something even more “ugly” to the point of affecting the person on all levels. Your subconscious mind records everything you experience. Your age at the time determines how this is recorded into your subconscious. Something that someone did to hurt you when you were eight years old, got recorded as you experienced it then. That experience could be affecting you today as a thirty-year-old adult! I know some of you are thinking, "I can't forgive my dad for what happened. It was so real for me and hurt me deeply. It is etched in my heart and brain!" Would it be possible for you to preserve the learnings from that experience and release the trauma? If you could, it may just help you move on in your life from a better feeling place . . . physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually! Do this for you! When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. ~ Bernard Meltze I know some of you are ready to move on and wondering “How do I do this?” You may have a person or persons in mind that you feel have hurt you. Remember, this could be for something huge like a crime against you or as small as that boy in elementary school that always told you that you were ugly. I can share a process that I have used that I have found to be very powerful. Find a space where you will not be disturbed. From your heart, “be” with that person, have a conversation with that person in your mind or out loud. Whatever you need to do to connect with the person and what happened, do it. I am not asking you to relive the trauma, but more be in a place that you can forgive what happened. Start first with forgiving yourself. You are forgiving yourself for what you have done to hold on to this and what it may have done to you physically and emotionally. Hold your hands over your heart while saying “I deeply and profoundly, love, accept and forgive myself.” Continue doing this, while consciously breathing. Do this for as long as necessary till you feel a shift within you. Next, move on to the person that you want to forgive. As you continue from that place of forgiveness of yourself, forgive them. You can continue to hold your hands over your heart if you like. Imagine an infinity symbol between your heart and the person’s heart flowing love from you to them and back again. Remember, you are doing this for you, not them. When your memory of this has faded or is not as painful, you will know that you have released or changed your feelings about what happened. The picture or memory is still there but it is not triggering or controlling you anymore. You are now in a place of forgiveness. Choose to forgive. Watch how your life changes. Do it for you! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
The greatest gift is a portion of thyself. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson It's that time of year where there is so much going on that is not part of your normal day-to-day routine. The holidays seem to create extra activities. Shopping, baking, Christmas programs and getting together with friends and family are perhaps high on your “to do” list. All of this “extra” can be stressful at times. It is easy to get caught up in the rushing around and stress at this time of year. The holidays are meant to be a time of gratitude, love, joy and peace. During this time, it is more important that ever, to take good care of you! If you are stressed about finding the “perfect gift” or what you are going to cook for your family get-together, you will miss the gifts of the season. Let’s look at what you can do to help YOU receive all the beautiful gifts of the season. Can you commit to less and not over promise? Is it critical to make and decorate the perfect cookies? Can you love yourself enough to say “no” to something you really don’t want to participate in? Even though you may be especially busy doing all the “extra” right now, practice self-love by scheduling time to do something for you. Walk in nature, even if it is just walking around your block for 30 minutes. Turn your phone off and just “be”. Make a cup of tea and put your feet up and rest for 20 minutes. When you do what is right for you, it is right for everyone around you! Taking care of you, especially at this time of year, is not being selfish. It is a gift that you give to yourself as well as everyone else! When you do what is right for you, it is right for everyone around you. Take a moment to look at what you have scheduled from today through the end of the year. Do you feel anxious or stressed about how you are going to get everything done? Is it making you lose sleep at night thinking about everything? Are you feeling a little overwhelmed? Look at where you can lighten your schedule by reconsidering what you were planning to do. Maybe you can make a simple recipe to take to your friend’s party rather than a complicated recipe you have never made before. Instead of making ten different cookies to share with all your neighbors, make a couple of your favorites for them. Can you slow down enough to share the gifts of YOU? You are a source of many special gifts that can be shared with others. When you hear that you have gifts, many of you think about what you can’t do. You think “I’m not creative.” You don’t have to create anything unless you want to. You being YOU is a gift!! I believe that most people truly prefer the gift of you over anything material. Spend some time with someone who is home bound. Share your smile and a hug with them and watch what happens. Take time to write a handwritten note to someone telling them how much they mean to you. Call someone who would love to hear your voice. Visualize someone in your mind and send them love. They will feel that love on some level of their being! When you share your gifts, it opens you up to receive the beautiful gifts of the season. What a wonderful way to give and receive gifts. Doing this may help you start a new tradition of giving the gift of YOU! No matter how you celebrate the holidays, it is up to you how you choose to do so. You can be stressed rushing everywhere, anxious about how things will turn out, or you can slow down and enjoy this special time of the year. It would be a shame to miss the gifts in each moment. What can you do for YOU so that you don’t miss out on the beautiful gifts of the season? I am grateful for the gift of each one of you. Thank you for the gift of YOU. Wishing you all the blessings and gifts of the season . . . joy, peace and especially love. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough. ~ Oprah Winfrey It’s Thanksgiving time here in the United States and many people seem to be more thankful, more grateful than other times of the year. They are generous and loving in their actions. People helping those that are in need – giving to food drives, clothing drives, toys for children and basic living necessities for the elderly. It is so uplifting this time of year to see the good will of so many towards others in their communities. What if this “giving” spirit could continue year-round? What would the world, or your part of the world, look and feel like? I have found that the more I am grateful for, the more I have to be grateful for! It is from this attitude of gratitude that I seem to have more to share with people. Gratitude and attitude are not challenges; they are choices. ~ Robert Breathe Being grateful for what you do have, helps you see how much you have to be grateful for! No matter what your current financial circumstances may be, you probably have more than half the people living in this world. You really do! You may be reading this and thinking “Julie has no idea how much money I have.” You are correct, I don’t! What I do know is that you have a lot to be grateful for regardless of the balance in your bank account. You have the resources of your time, your talents, your smile, your kind words. All of these can be shared with others and it doesn’t cost you a penny! If you are down and negative about how much you don’t have, that is what will continue for you. Everything is energy, including money. You are blocking the flow of money or anything else you want when you focus on the “lack” of it in your life. If you can find a way to focus on what you do have and be grateful for that, you will soon find that you have more to be grateful for. I will share an easy exercise you can do that has helped many people have more gratitude in their life. Every day find time to write down at least three things you are grateful for. It can be something as simple as “I am grateful that the sun is shining and it’s a beautiful morning!” Or, “I am grateful for my family.” Or, “I am grateful that I have enough money to pay my electric bill.” Anything that you are grateful for, write it down. Some people have a “Gratitude Journal” while others use a spiral notebook or pad. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are consistent in doing this every day! I also suggest you do this at the same time every day so that it becomes part of your routine – in the morning or before going to bed. Whatever time is convenient for you is a good time! Many years ago, I worked with a woman who was very unhappy in her job but did not want to find another job and move because she had a child in high school. I suggested she find something good about her job and focus on that one thing she liked while at work. I also suggested she write down three things every day that she was grateful for. Before long, she was writing ten things down, then twenty and after several months she was writing over fifty things a day that she was grateful for! Soon everything turned around in her job, she was moved to a new position she loved and she ended up staying there till she retired. When I starting counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. ~ Willie Nelson There are many ways that you can have an attitude of gratitude in your life. I have only shared one way that I have seen to be helpful. I know there are other ways to do this. I’d love for you to share below with the other readers what you do to count your blessings and be grateful. I am grateful for all the beautiful people who have blessed my life over the years. May your life be abundant in all ways that uplift and support you. Thank you for the blessing of you! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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