Only do what your heart tells you. ~ Princess Diana
During February, especially the first couple of weeks leading up to February 14th, people seem to be focused on love. When you see a red heart, what is one of the first things you think about? I bet it is love. But do you ever think about living from your heart?
Many of you have been conditioned to think about this or that since a very early age. Some of you think and rethink about things till you fall off the hamster wheel from exhaustion going round and round thinking so much! You might even get a headache from thinking so much! At other times it gets to be too much, so you give in and make any decision just to move on with your day.
Don’t get me wrong. It’s important to use your brain to help you navigate through life. It is amazing how many decisions you make in one day! You probably aren’t even conscious of all the decisions you make. It’s so automatic.
Is this you? You gather information to help you decide what you might do. Then you think about the information as it relates to what you want to do. (Or maybe you don’t even gather any information to make a decision!) Finally, you decide yes or no and move on from your decision. I know it can be more complicated than these few steps but basically, that’s it!
Sometimes fear stops you. Maybe you are one of the people who get caught on that hamster wheel I mentioned earlier. Perhaps you put off making a decision because it is too uncomfortable for you to decide one way or the other.
What if, instead, you lived from your heart when making a decision? Rather than thinking about what to do, you “feel” into what to do. In other words, you let your feelings be the GPS that helps you make decisions.
I know for some of you, this goes totally against what you were taught and conditioned to believe. I’m not saying to stop thinking about everything, just stop and feel into things first and then figure out your plan for moving forward with your decision. Let’s look at an example of what I am talking about.
You have had a very busy week at work and home, and you have had no “down time” or alone time. On Friday you marked out time on your calendar to do something for you by yourself. No interruptions and with time to focus on recharging your batteries.
A friend texts you Friday morning and asks you to meet for lunch. You haven’t seen your friend in a long time. You think about how you “should” have lunch with them and then start to feel guilty if you don’t. That is when you stop thinking about what to do and feel into what you want to do.
All you need to do is take a deep breath and drop into your heart center. Here in that special place that is connected to your inner guidance system, you feel into what is best for you to do about lunch. Simply ask yourself “How do I feel about going to lunch with my friend?”
If you feel excited to spend time with your friend, then go to lunch. If you get a pit in your stomach or a heavy feeling when you ask yourself the “feeling” question, then don’t go to lunch. Once you feel into your decision, then you can think about how to carry out your decision.
If you go to lunch with your friend, you can figure out a time to reschedule your “alone” time. If you decide not to go to lunch with your friend, then you can think about how to tell your friend. Let your friend know that you have other plans at lunchtime and can’t make it. You’re not lying, and you can always ask them for a “rain check” to have lunch at a later date.
For the next few days when you must decide what to do about something, try feeling into it rather than thinking about it. For example, what to eat for breakfast, what clothes to wear today or what errands to run. Start with the small, everyday things first. When you are comfortable with using this method to make decisions, then you can use it for making decisions about anything in your life – big or small!
Your feelings won’t mislead you. The more you do this, the better you will get at making decisions that are best for you! And, when you do what is right for you coming from a place of love, it is right for everyone around you.
Happy heart month . . . happy heart year!
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