Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make, makes you. Choose wisely. ~ Roy T. Bennett When the word relationship is mentioned in a conversation, you probably think about the relationship you have with a partner, spouse, child, family member or friend. Have you ever stopped to think about your relationship with money, your work, the environment and just about everything in your world? You are in relationship with everyone and everything around you. How you think and feel about something or someone, affects that relationship. Whether you realize it or not, you are “broadcasting” how you feel about something by the way you talk about it or even think about it. Your body language, your energy frequency, about a particular subject or person is sent out from you. You don’t even have to speak a word and people around you can sense how you think or feel about them or what is being discussed. I am sure some of you reading this have witnessed someone who walked into a room and you could feel their presence fill the room. They didn’t say a word or do anything except walk into the room. And, yet, everyone in the room could tell that something was different and the energy or the feeling in the room had changed. This feeling in the room may or may not have been “good” but yet it was felt because everything is energy and you are energy. You felt the change in energy when that person walked into the room. Have you ever noticed that when you are irritated with someone and you speak with them, often they get irritated with you? They pick up on what you are feeling and you are affecting them. It’s a vicious cycle that goes nowhere and does not serve you or the other person. You can participate in the “blame game” and say it is not about you and the other person’s “fault”. Many times in relationships, the other person is reflecting back to you something about you. You can’t change the other person but you can change you. Knowing this, is there something you can change about you that would help the relationship be more in ease and enjoyable? I have been blessed to have worked with many wonderful people over the course of my life. I am grateful that I can get along with just about every person I come in contact with. However, there was one person who was difficult for me to work with who happened to also be my boss. My relationship with my boss was affecting how I felt about my position, my career. I didn’t want to leave my job because I loved what I was doing. I knew I had to find a way to be in this work relationship that would be beneficial for me. I realized I had to focus on the good in the relationship with my boss and not let the “bad” affect how I felt. I did not want all that bad to come back to me. I made a list of the good qualities of my boss and focused on those aspects. I made a conscious effort to not allow what I didn’t like about her to affect me. After about a month, I noticed that she was friendlier and kinder to me. Once I changed my attitude, my boss changed. I still did not agree with many things about her but I was able to stay in the job I loved and soon she was moved to another position. I am glad I was able to change my feelings rather than be irritated and angry in that relationship. This week, pay attention when you feel yourself getting irritated about something or with someone. Step back and ask yourself why are you irritated. Can you change how you look at the situation and get into a better feeling place? Try this and see how your relationships improve because you are willing to make changes with how you feel about the people and events in your life. Often a small shift in your feelings can make a big difference! It is your choice. You can choose to be irritated with a person, your job, where you live, your money or whatever it is and be miserable. Or, you can choose to find something good to focus on in the relationship and feel better within yourself. We all have a choice . . . what do you choose in your relationships? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. ~ Oscar Wilde Why is it that you can love others but it is not always so easy to love yourself? Loving others comes very easily and naturally to many of you. Even those of you who have not experienced much love in your life, you can still find a way to show love and be loving with other people. I was never taught about self-love. Were you? I believe our society use to have the mindset that if you thought about yourself first, you were either selfish or narcissist. It is now known that it is important to take care of yourself, first, so that you can be in a better place to help others. In the world we live in, if we each took time to love ourselves, can you imagine what the world would be like? It is important to fill yourself up to overflowing and then allow that overflow to go out to others. When you love yourself, you form the foundation for all the other relationships in your life as mentioned in my last blog, Your #1 Relationship . . . YOU. Let’s look at some practical ways to help you take that first step on the road of self-love. You can choose to do one of these self-love practices or several at one time. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Just start doing something to love yourself and anchor that love within you. Accept yourself . . . warts and allYes, you have read this before in an earlier blog but it is important to repeat here. Until you can accept you, all of you, it will be difficult to completely love you. Stop comparing yourself to others. You can never be someone else or even be completely like anyone else! You are unique and special in your own way and that is beautiful. Celebrate who you are! Stop beating yourself upHave you ever stopped to listen to what you tell yourself on a daily or even hourly basis? We are usually our worst critic. Stop saying negative things, out loud or in your mind, about yourself. Your body and mind are constantly listening to what you are saying. Soon all those negative things you have said about yourself will be programmed into you. Become more aware of what you are thinking and saying about yourself. Would you say these same things to someone you love? Stop yourself every time you realize what you are saying is negative and turn it into something positive. “I am so fat” becomes “I am taking walks and eating better so I know I will lose weight and be healthier.” Schedule time to do what brings you joyI have worked with people who felt silly scheduling time for themselves and for most, it was the hardest thing for them to do. Everyone seems to be so busy with life. For this reason, I suggest they block out a time in their schedule to do something they enjoy. Love to take walks, schedule 30 minutes at least 2-3 times a week to take a walk. Love to have coffee with a friend, set aside time in your schedule to meet your friend for coffee. Give yourself permission to take time for what makes you happy. Even if you only feel you can schedule time for you once a week, start there. As you see the benefits of taking time for you, you will find even more ways to schedule time for you. Take time for self-carePart of loving yourself is taking good care of you, all of you! Start by treating yourself as the precious spirit that you are. No matter what your resources are, you can find a way to nurture yourself. Consider healthy nutrition, getting enough sleep, exercise and time with family and friends. All of this may seem like a lot to do but it can be incorporated into your daily routine. Look at your spiritualityRegardless of a religion or system you believe in, your spirituality comes from a different perspective. It comes from within you. It is your beliefs, feelings, emotions, those “inner knowings” that are your truths. It is looking at what is true for you . . . the truth within you. Take time to sit and just be with yourself as you examine your truths. Allow this part of you to “speak” to you and guide you in the journey of self-love. For some of you, it is time to listen to the wise part of you that knows you better than anyone else! We all desire to love and be loved. Why not start with yourself? You will find that as you take time to be loving with yourself, that love flows out to everyone around you. When you love yourself, it is a gift you give not only to yourself, but to everyone around you. Thank you for that gift! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
You are the only person you can count on for the rest of your life. ~ Julie Wilson You are in a relationship with so many people . . . your spouse, children, immediate and extended family, friends, coworkers and the list goes on. You are also in a relationship with "things" . . . your job, your money, your car, your health and so much more. You are in a relationship with everyone and everything in your life and yet, have you ever looked closely at all your relationships? The majority of you reading this spend most of your time focused on two to five important “people” relationships in your life. If you consider the time interacting with the person, thinking about the person, helping the person and all that you do with the person, it takes a lot of time to be in a relationship. Then you have all the other relationships that are not people related, like your job, and you can see that you spend a lot of time and energy in relationships. With all of this going on in your life, have you ever considered how important it is to have a relationship with you? It’s critical to have a good relationship with you. Your relationship with you affects all of your other relationships! It is important to take time to have a relationship with YOU! Have you ever realized that the only person in this world that you can count on for the rest of your life is you? I know some of you are thinking “Julie has no clue what she is writing about because I am in a solid relationship with my spouse of 25 years!” That is wonderful and I am happy for you but your spouse, anyone you in your life, could be gone tomorrow! You are the only person you can count on to be with you for the rest of your life. You will be with you through every minute of every day for the rest of your life. Doesn’t it make sense to you to do everything you can to have a loving, caring relationship with you? It’s important to understand that the most important relationship you have with anyone is with YOU! If you are upset, angry or frustrated with yourself, that is going to spill over into all your other relationships. If you don’t like yourself, that feeling will be sent out from you and other people will pick up on it. It will affect how they see you and interact with you. If you don’t like you, then how can you expect others to like you? I would guess that you weren’t taught about self-love or how to have a relationship with yourself. You can have a relationship with you in the same manner you have a sincere, loving relationship with someone else. Take care of yourself, help yourself, love yourself. When you are comfortable being with you and spending time with you, then you are on the road to establishing a lifelong relationship with you. I have worked with many people who are struggling with their marriage or with their children or at work. When they make it a priority to spend time on their relationship with themselves, everything in their life seems to improve. At first, it may not be an easy task to have a beautiful relationship with yourself. As you develop your relationship with you, watch how it affects all of your other relationships. The more you feel good about you and can Love Yourself . . . Warts and All as I mentioned in my last blog, the stronger your relationship will be with others and everything in your life. If you are the only person you can count on for the rest of your life, isn’t it worth the effort to make your relationship with YOU your #1 priority? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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