“Choose being kind over being right and you’ll be right every time.”
~ Richard Carlson
It happens to all of us. We get in a discussion with a friend, colleague, family member or even a stranger, and you have a different point of view than the other person about what is being discussed. Sometimes it may not be a discussion but more of a heated argument!
It seems as though it is human nature, in most incidents, that each person in the discussion has to prove their point and be right! It’s as if neither person will budge even a little from their thoughts and perspectives about the topic being discussed. They’re so set in what they think and believe, nothing will make them change their mind!
It is fact that everyone has their own opinion and truth about things, events and people. We can agree or disagree on many topics and beliefs with others but we still have our own perspective based on what we have experienced in our life. Our uniqueness, truths and beliefs are an important thread of the fabric of humanity.
Yes, it is very important that you are who you are and believe what you believe based on what is true for you. And, it is just as important that we remember that each person has their own truths. It doesn’t make them any more “right” than you and vice versa. Each thread of the fabric is important or else the fabric will unravel.
The next time you find yourself in a discussion with someone and you do not agree with them, could you stop for a minute and listen to what they are saying? I mean really listen to what they are telling you. You don’t have to agree with everything being stated but you do have the choice to listen with an open mind and heart.
You know what your life has been like and there is not one other person who has walked in your shoes to know exactly what you have experienced and felt. The same is true for everyone you meet. What if you take a moment to hear what they are saying and see if you can learn something new? What if you can expand your understanding of the world through this person and it helps you form new beliefs or truths for you?
Stand up for what you believe in and what is true for you. That’s admirable. As you do this, though, don’t be so “right” and so closed minded that you cannot even think that there may be another “right” side to consider.
We can’t know everything about everything . . . no one knows everything! If you understand that everyone has a different perspective based on what they have experienced in their life, then you might consider the following statement to be true.
There is your side of the story, their side of the story and perhaps a different, truer side of the story neither one of you has considered!
The next time you find yourself in a discussion with someone and you have very different points of view, perhaps you can choose to step back and listen with an open heart to what the other person is saying. You still don’t have to agree with them. You can continue to believe what you feel is correct for you. Maybe when all is said and done, though, it won’t be about who was right or wrong.
It will be about who went to the greater length to consider the other
You each hold an important thread of the fabric. You can choose to strengthen those threads by being remembered for caring enough to listen to the other person. Or, you can argue your point to prove you are “right”.
What do you choose?
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