Follow your dreams, believe in yourself and don’t give up. ~ Rachel Corri Dreams really can and do come true! I am sure at some time in your life you have had a vision in your mind of something exciting you would love to do or become. That is a powerful way to start any creation! Many life changing events and inventions have come from a dream or desire. What dream have you had that you haven’t taken the first step to bring it into solid form? What would you do if you knew your dream could come true? Within each one of you is a creative person waiting to step forward. Yes, you! No matter what you have been told or what you believe about yourself, you have creative energies within you! A dream is a thought form that is energy. Once you do anything to take that energy from thought to action, you are creating. You may not have all the resources initially to make that dream come true, but you can still put some action behind the dream to get the ball rolling! As you stay focused in the present moment with your dream, doing what you can do, watch how resources start to line up to support your dream. Someone has the materials you need to get started at a reasonable price. Or someone happens to know someone who has the expertise to help you take your dream from a thought to reality. You don’t have to have all the answers or resources to get started. What would you do if you knew you would not fail? ~ Robert H Schulle Take a minute or two and think about something you were really excited about that you wanted to do or create. Some of you have had dreams and visions about your life since you were a young child. You might have a dream that you just can’t let go of. Focus on the excitement of your idea. What has held you back from moving forward with that dream? Many of you have a fear of failure. Or, you believe you are not good enough or smart enough to make your dream come true. Some of the greatest successes have come from some of the biggest “failures”. In learning what not to do, you are one step closer to making your dream a reality. In trying, you have succeeded!! Other ways that you can block your dream is to believe everything has to be perfect before fulfilling your dream. You may believe you have to have the complete package tied with a bow before you can launch your creation. We live in an imperfect world so why put pressure on yourself that you have to have a “perfect package” before releasing your dream out into the world! Sometimes in creating your dream and putting it out there, you find it takes on a life of its own. Often this is way better than anything you could imagine! Instead of getting caught up with the belief that everything has to go a certain way, surrender to the process. Trust that all is unfolding according to your Divine life path. Don’t let others tell you that something is not possible. You can do or become anything you choose to do or become! Some of the most successful people have had very little advanced training. Some examples are that they have become well known speakers, singers, mentors, teachers and entrepreneurs. Years ago, people thought the light bulb, telephone, television and even cars were crazy ideas! Don’t let other people’s beliefs hold you back from the joy of making your dream a reality. Believe in yourself and know that anything is possible! Sweet dreams! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life. ~ Marc Anthony Wouldn’t it be wonderful to wake up everyday excited about what you will do that day? Whether your day is working in an office by yourself or in a manufacturing plant with 100 other people or as a stay-at-home parent, how would it feel if you loved what you do? Not sure you could ever love your job? If not, there are things you can do to at least like what you do! When you love someone, there are certain feelings you have that are uplifting and “feel good” feelings. You spend most of your waking hours “working". Wouldn’t you love to have the same “feel good” feelings about your daily work? Some of you reading this are thinking “I don’t like my job and I can’t leave it. I have too many responsibilities to just resign and do something different.” There are jobs that many of you are doing that you just can’t leave, at least not right now. That may be true for you. If so, I would ask you to consider looking at ways to change your attitude about what you do . . . even if you don’t like what you are doing at all. When you are doing something you don’t like, whether it is career based or in any other area of your life, you are harming yourself on all levels of you. It will affect you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. You may not be able to leave your job, but you can change how you feel about that job or anything else in your life. Your mind, your attitude, plays a major role in how you see and perceive things. If you only see the negative about your job, you will continue to see more negative things related to your job. Soon you won’t find one thing to feel good about in what you are doing. Imagine being enthusiastic about your day! Even if you like what you are currently doing, would you like to take it to the next level and love what you do? Regardless of how you feel about your job, let’s see if you can feel better about what you do. Imagine waking up and being enthusiastic about your day! Take a moment or two and do this simple exercise. Think about the last day you spent working in your job. Quickly review the day and find at least 1-3 things that happened that you at least liked a little. Perhaps there was one thing you really liked or loved that happened that day. I know you can find at least one thing that was “good” about your day. Write everything down that is coming to you. Keep this list where you can review it throughout the day, especially those times when you feel things are not going so well. Focus on what you wrote on your list. No matter what your day has been like, I challenge you to find more things to add to this list. Find the things you felt that were even somewhat “positive or feel good” that happened and add them to your list. This exercise of focusing on the “positive” of your job will help you feel more positive about what you do. Another thing you can do is to find something you enjoy doing and do more of it! This is at work or some other area of your life. Maybe you enjoy being outdoors and you schedule time to take a walk several times a week. While you are walking, stay focused on what you are doing and why you love being outdoors. Practice focusing on what you love about your life. Pay attention to any and everything you love, or like a lot, that is happening in your life. As you do this, see if it helps you find even more to love about your job, your life. Wouldn’t it be exciting to wake up every day knowing that your day will be filled with what you love to do?!!! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson It’s the beginning of another year and some of you are coming up with resolutions or goals for the new year. Resolutions are made for the upcoming year and often by the end of January, they are forgotten or abandoned because “they are so much work to keep doing". This is usually done with great intentions but often makes you feel badly when you don’t complete them. What if this year, you set goals and intentions in a slightly different way? Instead of coming up with a list of goals that you think you “should” work on, what if you came up with a list that comes from your heart and feels good? Instead of thinking and rethinking what to do, get into your heart and see what feels right to do. I know you can come up with goals and resolutions that you would enjoy completing. Some of the most popular New Year’s resolutions have to do with losing weight, being healthy, work or relationships. Often resolutions are made with a specific, detailed result. That is the old way of making resolutions. Want to try the new way of setting goals that is more empowering? What if instead your resolution is to be happy? Or healthy? Or working in your passion? Rather than a specific goal of getting healthy by losing 25 pounds while going on ABC diet and working out 5 days a week, you have a goal or goals that are broader. Your resolutions now allow you more freedom to create happiness or health or your passion, in every moment, whatever that means for you. One day being healthy will mean that you are taking steps to eating better or exercising more. You may realize that you are not getting enough quality sleep and you start going to bed earlier. It is brought to your awareness that emotions affect your physical health. You decide to go within to look at what emotions you are carrying that may be causing your body to be less than healthy. When you set goals that are specific and you aren’t able to be consistent all the time, you get frustrated or upset with yourself. In this new way of setting goals or intentions, you have more “wiggle room”. When you set a goal of ABC and you feel that is what needs to be done, you are limiting yourself. What if something D through Z is more beneficial for you? In the new way, you are allowing for more helpful possibilities to come to you. You may believe you know what is best for you but sometimes you don’t always know what is best! Allow space for the unexpected, beneficial event or person to come into your life. Make a commitment to yourself that this year you are going to be more open, less rigid and controlling, to allow unknown and unplanned gifts to come to you. The first of the year always brings hopes and wishes of new beginnings or beneficial changes in your life. This year, imagine each day to be the beginning of something new and wonderful in your life. Stay in the moment and be aware of all that is unfolding in that moment. It’s a new year and every day is a new day . . . what will your intentions be for each new day? Wishing you a year filled with days that are better than you can imagine! Happy, exciting, 365 new days this year! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The greatest gift is a portion of thyself. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson It's that time of year where there is so much going on that is not part of your normal day-to-day routine. The holidays seem to create extra activities. Shopping, baking, Christmas programs and getting together with friends and family are perhaps high on your “to do” list. All of this “extra” can be stressful at times. It is easy to get caught up in the rushing around and stress at this time of year. The holidays are meant to be a time of gratitude, love, joy and peace. During this time, it is more important that ever, to take good care of you! If you are stressed about finding the “perfect gift” or what you are going to cook for your family get-together, you will miss the gifts of the season. Let’s look at what you can do to help YOU receive all the beautiful gifts of the season. Can you commit to less and not over promise? Is it critical to make and decorate the perfect cookies? Can you love yourself enough to say “no” to something you really don’t want to participate in? Even though you may be especially busy doing all the “extra” right now, practice self-love by scheduling time to do something for you. Walk in nature, even if it is just walking around your block for 30 minutes. Turn your phone off and just “be”. Make a cup of tea and put your feet up and rest for 20 minutes. When you do what is right for you, it is right for everyone around you! Taking care of you, especially at this time of year, is not being selfish. It is a gift that you give to yourself as well as everyone else! When you do what is right for you, it is right for everyone around you. Take a moment to look at what you have scheduled from today through the end of the year. Do you feel anxious or stressed about how you are going to get everything done? Is it making you lose sleep at night thinking about everything? Are you feeling a little overwhelmed? Look at where you can lighten your schedule by reconsidering what you were planning to do. Maybe you can make a simple recipe to take to your friend’s party rather than a complicated recipe you have never made before. Instead of making ten different cookies to share with all your neighbors, make a couple of your favorites for them. Can you slow down enough to share the gifts of YOU? You are a source of many special gifts that can be shared with others. When you hear that you have gifts, many of you think about what you can’t do. You think “I’m not creative.” You don’t have to create anything unless you want to. You being YOU is a gift!! I believe that most people truly prefer the gift of you over anything material. Spend some time with someone who is home bound. Share your smile and a hug with them and watch what happens. Take time to write a handwritten note to someone telling them how much they mean to you. Call someone who would love to hear your voice. Visualize someone in your mind and send them love. They will feel that love on some level of their being! When you share your gifts, it opens you up to receive the beautiful gifts of the season. What a wonderful way to give and receive gifts. Doing this may help you start a new tradition of giving the gift of YOU! No matter how you celebrate the holidays, it is up to you how you choose to do so. You can be stressed rushing everywhere, anxious about how things will turn out, or you can slow down and enjoy this special time of the year. It would be a shame to miss the gifts in each moment. What can you do for YOU so that you don’t miss out on the beautiful gifts of the season? I am grateful for the gift of each one of you. Thank you for the gift of YOU. Wishing you all the blessings and gifts of the season . . . joy, peace and especially love. Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. ~ Maya Angelou You go about your day doing what you do but are you surviving or thriving? How would you answer that question if I asked you right now? First you have to understand the difference between surviving and thriving. Surviving you are existing in spite of danger or hardship, and thriving you are prospering and flourishing. Big difference! Regardless of your current situation or circumstances, I am sure most of you reading this would love to say that you ARE thriving right now in your life. Some of you are thriving . . . while many of you may not be. If you feel “stuck in a rut” or depressed or even bored, you are not thriving. You can continue to survive or you can make a conscious choice to thrive. It’s up to you – your choice. If you decide you want to thrive, what does that mean for you and how do you do that? There are many facets to live a life where you are thriving. It can be overwhelming to make all or many of the necessary changes. Pick one piece of what thriving means to you and work on that. Once you take steps, even baby steps, toward making changes in that area, it will help you make changes in other areas of your “surviving” life to a “thriving” life. When you do not have a lot of resources in your life . . . family, friends, money, material things to live, etc, it becomes difficult to find ways to start thriving. That is understandable. Regardless of what you have or don’t have, it is your perception and attitude that contributes to the quality of your life. It’s what you make of what you have that allows you to thrive. Something that can help tremendously and will cost you nothing other than your time, is to look at your beliefs and attitudes about yourself and your life. What you think, you become! If you believe all those things you were told years ago about not being capable or good enough, that is what you will be. You may want to click on this link to read an earlier blog that tells how what you think and speak about yourself affects the life you are living. After you have made changes to your beliefs about yourself, look at what you believe about your life. No matter what is going on in your life, you have choices! You can choose to stay right where you are and that is fine. Or, you can choose right now in this moment that your life is going to take another path. You are the master of your life, not someone else. Anything is possible and miracles happen! I know you are saying that Julie doesn’t understand what I am going through and what is happening in my life. You are correct!!! I don’t know. What I do know is that you know YOU better than anyone else on this planet. If you choose, you have the strength and the wisdom within you to accomplish just about anything. I believe that anything is possible and miracles happen! Is there something about your life where you feel like you are stuck? Is it your job, relationship, health, finances? Pick one area and find one thing you can do to help you start the process of getting “unstuck”. For example, let’s look at the job you feel stuck in. Realistically you feel you can’t just quit because you have bills to pay and responsibilities. Okay, that’s fair. Is there something about your job that you love or at least like a lot? Can you focus on that part of your job and look forward to it each day? Or, is there a project at work that interest you that you could ask to help with it? Maybe you can look outside your current job and find something to do part-time that would make you happy. Have you ever had an idea of doing something on your own and possibly it could develop into your own business? Is there a hobby that intrigues you that may someday turn into more than a hobby? Any change you make in any area of your life is going to spill over and affect all areas of your life. Everything is interrelated. Whether you take a small or big step towards getting “unstuck," watch how everything in your life begins to change and flow. I'm celebrating you taking that first step to being in the flow of a thriving life! You can do it! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough. ~ Oprah Winfrey It’s Thanksgiving time here in the United States and many people seem to be more thankful, more grateful than other times of the year. They are generous and loving in their actions. People helping those that are in need – giving to food drives, clothing drives, toys for children and basic living necessities for the elderly. It is so uplifting this time of year to see the good will of so many towards others in their communities. What if this “giving” spirit could continue year-round? What would the world, or your part of the world, look and feel like? I have found that the more I am grateful for, the more I have to be grateful for! It is from this attitude of gratitude that I seem to have more to share with people. Gratitude and attitude are not challenges; they are choices. ~ Robert Breathe Being grateful for what you do have, helps you see how much you have to be grateful for! No matter what your current financial circumstances may be, you probably have more than half the people living in this world. You really do! You may be reading this and thinking “Julie has no idea how much money I have.” You are correct, I don’t! What I do know is that you have a lot to be grateful for regardless of the balance in your bank account. You have the resources of your time, your talents, your smile, your kind words. All of these can be shared with others and it doesn’t cost you a penny! If you are down and negative about how much you don’t have, that is what will continue for you. Everything is energy, including money. You are blocking the flow of money or anything else you want when you focus on the “lack” of it in your life. If you can find a way to focus on what you do have and be grateful for that, you will soon find that you have more to be grateful for. I will share an easy exercise you can do that has helped many people have more gratitude in their life. Every day find time to write down at least three things you are grateful for. It can be something as simple as “I am grateful that the sun is shining and it’s a beautiful morning!” Or, “I am grateful for my family.” Or, “I am grateful that I have enough money to pay my electric bill.” Anything that you are grateful for, write it down. Some people have a “Gratitude Journal” while others use a spiral notebook or pad. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are consistent in doing this every day! I also suggest you do this at the same time every day so that it becomes part of your routine – in the morning or before going to bed. Whatever time is convenient for you is a good time! Many years ago, I worked with a woman who was very unhappy in her job but did not want to find another job and move because she had a child in high school. I suggested she find something good about her job and focus on that one thing she liked while at work. I also suggested she write down three things every day that she was grateful for. Before long, she was writing ten things down, then twenty and after several months she was writing over fifty things a day that she was grateful for! Soon everything turned around in her job, she was moved to a new position she loved and she ended up staying there till she retired. When I starting counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. ~ Willie Nelson There are many ways that you can have an attitude of gratitude in your life. I have only shared one way that I have seen to be helpful. I know there are other ways to do this. I’d love for you to share below with the other readers what you do to count your blessings and be grateful. I am grateful for all the beautiful people who have blessed my life over the years. May your life be abundant in all ways that uplift and support you. Thank you for the blessing of you! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make, makes you. Choose wisely. ~ Roy T. Bennett When the word relationship is mentioned in a conversation, you probably think about the relationship you have with a partner, spouse, child, family member or friend. Have you ever stopped to think about your relationship with money, your work, the environment and just about everything in your world? You are in relationship with everyone and everything around you. How you think and feel about something or someone, affects that relationship. Whether you realize it or not, you are “broadcasting” how you feel about something by the way you talk about it or even think about it. Your body language, your energy frequency, about a particular subject or person is sent out from you. You don’t even have to speak a word and people around you can sense how you think or feel about them or what is being discussed. I am sure some of you reading this have witnessed someone who walked into a room and you could feel their presence fill the room. They didn’t say a word or do anything except walk into the room. And, yet, everyone in the room could tell that something was different and the energy or the feeling in the room had changed. This feeling in the room may or may not have been “good” but yet it was felt because everything is energy and you are energy. You felt the change in energy when that person walked into the room. Have you ever noticed that when you are irritated with someone and you speak with them, often they get irritated with you? They pick up on what you are feeling and you are affecting them. It’s a vicious cycle that goes nowhere and does not serve you or the other person. You can participate in the “blame game” and say it is not about you and the other person’s “fault”. Many times in relationships, the other person is reflecting back to you something about you. You can’t change the other person but you can change you. Knowing this, is there something you can change about you that would help the relationship be more in ease and enjoyable? I have been blessed to have worked with many wonderful people over the course of my life. I am grateful that I can get along with just about every person I come in contact with. However, there was one person who was difficult for me to work with who happened to also be my boss. My relationship with my boss was affecting how I felt about my position, my career. I didn’t want to leave my job because I loved what I was doing. I knew I had to find a way to be in this work relationship that would be beneficial for me. I realized I had to focus on the good in the relationship with my boss and not let the “bad” affect how I felt. I did not want all that bad to come back to me. I made a list of the good qualities of my boss and focused on those aspects. I made a conscious effort to not allow what I didn’t like about her to affect me. After about a month, I noticed that she was friendlier and kinder to me. Once I changed my attitude, my boss changed. I still did not agree with many things about her but I was able to stay in the job I loved and soon she was moved to another position. I am glad I was able to change my feelings rather than be irritated and angry in that relationship. This week, pay attention when you feel yourself getting irritated about something or with someone. Step back and ask yourself why are you irritated. Can you change how you look at the situation and get into a better feeling place? Try this and see how your relationships improve because you are willing to make changes with how you feel about the people and events in your life. Often a small shift in your feelings can make a big difference! It is your choice. You can choose to be irritated with a person, your job, where you live, your money or whatever it is and be miserable. Or, you can choose to find something good to focus on in the relationship and feel better within yourself. We all have a choice . . . what do you choose in your relationships? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. ~ Oscar Wilde Why is it that you can love others but it is not always so easy to love yourself? Loving others comes very easily and naturally to many of you. Even those of you who have not experienced much love in your life, you can still find a way to show love and be loving with other people. I was never taught about self-love. Were you? I believe our society use to have the mindset that if you thought about yourself first, you were either selfish or narcissist. It is now known that it is important to take care of yourself, first, so that you can be in a better place to help others. In the world we live in, if we each took time to love ourselves, can you imagine what the world would be like? It is important to fill yourself up to overflowing and then allow that overflow to go out to others. When you love yourself, you form the foundation for all the other relationships in your life as mentioned in my last blog, Your #1 Relationship . . . YOU. Let’s look at some practical ways to help you take that first step on the road of self-love. You can choose to do one of these self-love practices or several at one time. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Just start doing something to love yourself and anchor that love within you. Accept yourself . . . warts and allYes, you have read this before in an earlier blog but it is important to repeat here. Until you can accept you, all of you, it will be difficult to completely love you. Stop comparing yourself to others. You can never be someone else or even be completely like anyone else! You are unique and special in your own way and that is beautiful. Celebrate who you are! Stop beating yourself upHave you ever stopped to listen to what you tell yourself on a daily or even hourly basis? We are usually our worst critic. Stop saying negative things, out loud or in your mind, about yourself. Your body and mind are constantly listening to what you are saying. Soon all those negative things you have said about yourself will be programmed into you. Become more aware of what you are thinking and saying about yourself. Would you say these same things to someone you love? Stop yourself every time you realize what you are saying is negative and turn it into something positive. “I am so fat” becomes “I am taking walks and eating better so I know I will lose weight and be healthier.” Schedule time to do what brings you joyI have worked with people who felt silly scheduling time for themselves and for most, it was the hardest thing for them to do. Everyone seems to be so busy with life. For this reason, I suggest they block out a time in their schedule to do something they enjoy. Love to take walks, schedule 30 minutes at least 2-3 times a week to take a walk. Love to have coffee with a friend, set aside time in your schedule to meet your friend for coffee. Give yourself permission to take time for what makes you happy. Even if you only feel you can schedule time for you once a week, start there. As you see the benefits of taking time for you, you will find even more ways to schedule time for you. Take time for self-carePart of loving yourself is taking good care of you, all of you! Start by treating yourself as the precious spirit that you are. No matter what your resources are, you can find a way to nurture yourself. Consider healthy nutrition, getting enough sleep, exercise and time with family and friends. All of this may seem like a lot to do but it can be incorporated into your daily routine. Look at your spiritualityRegardless of a religion or system you believe in, your spirituality comes from a different perspective. It comes from within you. It is your beliefs, feelings, emotions, those “inner knowings” that are your truths. It is looking at what is true for you . . . the truth within you. Take time to sit and just be with yourself as you examine your truths. Allow this part of you to “speak” to you and guide you in the journey of self-love. For some of you, it is time to listen to the wise part of you that knows you better than anyone else! We all desire to love and be loved. Why not start with yourself? You will find that as you take time to be loving with yourself, that love flows out to everyone around you. When you love yourself, it is a gift you give not only to yourself, but to everyone around you. Thank you for that gift! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
You are the only person you can count on for the rest of your life. ~ Julie Wilson You are in a relationship with so many people . . . your spouse, children, immediate and extended family, friends, coworkers and the list goes on. You are also in a relationship with "things" . . . your job, your money, your car, your health and so much more. You are in a relationship with everyone and everything in your life and yet, have you ever looked closely at all your relationships? The majority of you reading this spend most of your time focused on two to five important “people” relationships in your life. If you consider the time interacting with the person, thinking about the person, helping the person and all that you do with the person, it takes a lot of time to be in a relationship. Then you have all the other relationships that are not people related, like your job, and you can see that you spend a lot of time and energy in relationships. With all of this going on in your life, have you ever considered how important it is to have a relationship with you? It’s critical to have a good relationship with you. Your relationship with you affects all of your other relationships! It is important to take time to have a relationship with YOU! Have you ever realized that the only person in this world that you can count on for the rest of your life is you? I know some of you are thinking “Julie has no clue what she is writing about because I am in a solid relationship with my spouse of 25 years!” That is wonderful and I am happy for you but your spouse, anyone you in your life, could be gone tomorrow! You are the only person you can count on to be with you for the rest of your life. You will be with you through every minute of every day for the rest of your life. Doesn’t it make sense to you to do everything you can to have a loving, caring relationship with you? It’s important to understand that the most important relationship you have with anyone is with YOU! If you are upset, angry or frustrated with yourself, that is going to spill over into all your other relationships. If you don’t like yourself, that feeling will be sent out from you and other people will pick up on it. It will affect how they see you and interact with you. If you don’t like you, then how can you expect others to like you? I would guess that you weren’t taught about self-love or how to have a relationship with yourself. You can have a relationship with you in the same manner you have a sincere, loving relationship with someone else. Take care of yourself, help yourself, love yourself. When you are comfortable being with you and spending time with you, then you are on the road to establishing a lifelong relationship with you. I have worked with many people who are struggling with their marriage or with their children or at work. When they make it a priority to spend time on their relationship with themselves, everything in their life seems to improve. At first, it may not be an easy task to have a beautiful relationship with yourself. As you develop your relationship with you, watch how it affects all of your other relationships. The more you feel good about you and can Love Yourself . . . Warts and All as I mentioned in my last blog, the stronger your relationship will be with others and everything in your life. If you are the only person you can count on for the rest of your life, isn’t it worth the effort to make your relationship with YOU your #1 priority? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections. ~ Sandra Bierig If you are like many people, you have a whole list of things you wish were different about you. How many times have you thought to yourself "I wish I were smarter or thinner or had prettier hair"? For whatever reason, we tend to be our own worst critic! It's time now to embrace all those aspects of you that you wish were different. In my last blog, Imperfectly Perfect You, you were "let off the hook" of being perfect. If you no longer have the pressure of being perfect, "being different" just might feel comfortable to you. Can you now accept that which cannot be changed and take steps to change that which can be changed? A big part of this is acceptance of yourself. Can you see through the so called "imperfections" and love yourself? No matter what you think or feel about yourself, there is something good and wonderful about each one of you reading this. I have found when I focus on the good, I see more of the good. Rather than focus on your "imperfections," focus on all the great things about YOU! We all have "imperfections" and that is what makes each one of us special. Many of you have heard me say "you have to love and accept yourself, warts and all." I know you don't have any warts! Think of them as imperfections. You have to love yourself, imperfections and all. You have to love and accept yourself, warts and all! How many of you have allowed your imperfections to hold you back? Have you said "I'm not creative enough to paint beautiful pictures" or "I'm not good at this or that so why bother trying to do it?" You are allowing the voice of your ego to dictate what you will and will not do. Time now for the true you to tell you what to do and be! Take a moment to think of something you have always wanted to do but never did because you didn't think you had the skills or were good enough to do it. Now get into your heart center and feel what it would be like doing that particular thing you didn't think you could do. Does it make your heart sing when you feel into the possibility of you doing it? Now that you have identified what it is you have always wanted to do but never did, you can take steps to make that happen. Any step, no matter how small, is a statement to yourself that you believe in you! Believe in yourself! What would you do if you knew you would not fail? In trying, you have succeeded, regardless of the outcome. Small successes are so much more than no successes because you did not even try. A successful person has failed so many more times than a person who has not even tried. The knowledge you gain from a so called "failure" can be turned into a beneficial success. Perhaps you always wanted to learn how to paint with acrylics. You could check out books from the library about how to paint, take a beginning acrylic painting class or watch YouTube videos that show the different painting techniques. Each painting you do is one creative step closer to painting the beautiful picture you always dreamed you would paint some day! Each one of your carries an important piece of the fabric of the world we live in. It would not be the same without you here. Yes, you have "imperfections". Embrace them! Know there is perfection in your imperfections. Love yourself . . . warts and all! Thank you for sharing, liking or commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. ~ Anna Quindien How often have you thought to yourself that you could have done something better? Or differently? Or this or that? We tend to have an inner dialogue with ourselves about how we should or could have done something differently or better if only we were more perfect. Please don't shoot the messenger . . . I'm here to tell you that you will never, ever, be perfect! We live in an imperfect world so how can you be perfect? The closest you can come to being perfect is being imperfectly perfect! We grow up in a society that tells us through advertising that our appearance needs to look a certain way, we need this job, drive this car and a whole list of other things. Then, supposedly, we will have the perfect life. Our families have expectations of us that are often a reflection of their hopes and wishes for us to be happy and have a perfect life. We grow up believing we must be all these things, and more, in order to be perfect. What is perfect? As defined in the dictionary - "being entirely without fault or defect". I could show a beautiful rare emerald to fifty people and I am sure that at least several of those people would point out something about the emerald to make it less than perfect in their eyes. Really, we each have our own definition of perfect. So many of us put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves to be perfect. This one concept of "being perfect" has caused so much heartache and mental health issues. Is there something going on in your life that you feel you have to be perfect in order for it to be "good or right" or for you to be accepted? If you are doing the best you can with whatever it is you are doing, then you are perfect in that moment. You are drawing on all your life experiences, knowledge and wisdom to come as close to perfection as possible. As beautiful and wonderful as you are, you still have flaws. We all do! Until you can embrace all of your imperfections as well as all the wonderful qualities about you, you will never even come close to being "perfect". Don't you see that in your imperfections, it makes you more real, more perfect as a human. I do not know of one person living on this planet that is perfect! Why would you put that pressure on yourself to be the only perfect person living at this time on Earth? Is it possible for you to get comfortable with looking for the "imperfectly perfect" in all that you are and all that you do? Can you relax a little more knowing that it is okay to be imperfect? Take a deep breath and let yourself know that you are off the hook of being perfect! Take another deep breath and . . . really . . . let . . . that . . . sink in. You are off the hook of being perfect! You add an important thread to the fabric of humanity. Yes, you! Let go and lighten up about being perfect. Know that you contribute a great deal to all those around you just by being . . . imperfectly perfect you! Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
I love looking in the mirror and feeling good about what I see. ~ Heather Morris When you look in the mirror, who do you see? Do you see your true self or do you see another version of you? Your eyes and your mind work together to help you see what you are looking at. Your mind holds many beliefs about you that shape who you see in the mirror. Often these beliefs are not even yours! Regardless of what you have been told or what you believe about yourself, you have the ability to change those beliefs and recreate them into what is true for you now. In the last blog, Coming Soon: New Release Movie Featuring You, I wrote about how you can start the process of changing your beliefs by first recognizing what beliefs you have that are no longer true for you. Stop reading this for a moment and recall something you have been told that you know in your heart is not true about you. Perhaps as a child you were taunted that you were a "quitter" and you would never accomplish anything! Sometimes, even now, you resist starting something new because you believe you will not finish it. You may have the "quitter" program running in the background, consciously or unconsciously, holding you back. Time for you to let go of that belief and replace it with a new one! Let's look at a concrete way to make a change. Recognizing what you want to change is the first step. Being willing to release or change that belief is the next step. Then it is a matter of anchoring the new belief within you in a way that creates new pathways in your brain. Using the "quitter" example, you could plan to do something and complete it. Perhaps you have never done a 10k race because you were afraid you would not finish. Anything you can do to move toward accomplishing that goal puts you one step closer to rewriting the belief that you are a quitter. What steps can you put into place to help you be successful in completing the race? You might start out walking two miles four times a week and soon you are walking more than two miles each time. Next, you find yourself walking/jogging those miles. Your strength and confidence increase. All the while you are telling yourself, "I am not a quitter. I am more than capable of completing anything I decide to do!" You enter a 5k race and find that you were able to accomplish that with ease. Before long, you are doing a 10k race. As you cross the finish line, you know you are not what you were told all those years ago. Through this process, you have rewired your brain with a new belief that you are a successful person and not a quitter! Not all beliefs take this long to change. Some can easily be changed by recognizing the belief and restating it into a belief that you know is your truth. Then anything you do in a concrete way, no matter how small or big, will help anchor the new belief. It will create new pathways in your brain and you will be creating the change you want to see. As you recognize what is true about you and you make these changes, you will be able to look in the mirror with your eyes and your beliefs. You will see the reflection of who you really are. Time to open your eyes and your heart so you can finally see the real YOU! Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
Rewriting the negative beliefs you have learned is the essence of becoming the director of your life. ~ Deborah Day Do you find that you have a story of who you are playing in your head that is like a bad rated movie? It rolls across the screen with your life story and shows you being told how to act, and what to say and think. As the movie progresses, you watch in amazement as you continue to believe what you see because you watch the same movie over and over again in your mind! In Self-talk: Reflections of Your Beliefs, I wrote about how your mind believes what you think and say about yourself. Often you are just telling yourself what you have heard people say about you. Some of the beliefs you have about YOU are so deep-rooted in you because you have heard them since birth! The beliefs we hold within us about ourselves affect our self-esteem . . . in a negative or positive way. Someone's "innocent" comment about how you dressed when you were young could have affected your self-worth, your confidence, in a negative way and impacted your beliefs about you. At another time in your life, you were complimented and praised for the delicious cookies you baked. To this day, you feel good about anything you bake! It is possible to change how you think and feel about yourself. Not always easy but you can do it! It is an "inside" job of looking at your beliefs, especially the core beliefs you have about YOU. Then you can decide what you feel is really true about you. What are your truths? Take a few minutes to think about something you were told about you that just doesn't feel right. Maybe when you were younger you were told that you weren't smart. Now that you are older and you have graduated from college with a B.A. degree, you know in your heart that you have to be smart to earn a degree. Perhaps you were told that you were fat growing up. You always believed you were fat and yet, now people compliment you on how beautiful you are! As you recognize the beliefs you have about yourself that just aren't true anymore, take time to acknowledge those beliefs. Then, in your own way, release those beliefs to make room in your mind for the new beliefs that are true about you. If some of the old beliefs try to work their way back into your mind, stop and restate them in a positive way. Verbalize out loud or in your mind the beliefs that are true for who you are at this time. Look at what beliefs you may have about you that are not true anymore. Life happens . . . people change. You are not the same person you were a year ago let alone ten years ago!!! No one knows what is true for you except YOU. Time to start believing what you know to be true about you. At first this may seem like "work" but you will find that it becomes easier as you feel better about who you are. The more you are conscious of your beliefs and the "movie" that is playing in your mind, the more you will be able to rewrite the script and play the part of the authentic YOU! Time for a new lead role in the movie of your life! Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
We are what we believe we are. ~ C.S. Lewis Your mind believes what it is told and you are what you believe. The quote above by C.S. Lewis speaks volumes! Do you believe what others tell you about you? Or, do you believe what you know to be true for you? You have experienced how it feels when someone gives you a compliment. You also know how it feels when an inconsiderate person puts you down and says ugly things about you. Even though, in most cases, the person is reflecting onto you how they feel about themselves, your mind doesn't know any different. Your mind takes this all in and believes what it is told. Whether words are spoken, written or in your thoughts, they have power. You can't control what others think or say about you, but you can control what you think and say about yourself. Your innermost thoughts about YOU affect you on every level of your being. What is your self-talk saying about you? Before going on, take a minute and write down five things you believe about yourself. You probably believe these five things because you have heard them over and over again throughout your life. When you have your five beliefs listed, look at them. I would guess that some things you wrote down could be perceived as negative. "I'm not very smart. I'm fat. No one would love someone like me." Looking at these five beliefs may make you feel sad or angry but it is possible to change those beliefs. Within you is the ability to change what you believe about yourself. You can't depend on others to build you up with compliments and praise. YOU are the only person you can depend on! The thoughts spinning around your mind have the capacity to make or break you. You have the power within you to make changes in what you believe. In general, it can be human nature to think negatively. More and more people are now doing their best to be more positive. You can too! Try this. When you think or say something negative about yourself, stop in that moment, and rephrase it into something more positive. "I'm fat" becomes "Now that I am eating healthier and taking a walk almost every day, I know that my body will slim down." It is not always easy to think or speak positive all the time. Once you start being conscious of the words you use when you speak about yourself, it will become easier. Take an inventory of the words that you say or think about yourself. Would you say the same thing to your partner, your child or a friend? If not, why would you say them to yourself? Get in the habit of using kind and loving words when speaking or thinking about yourself. I am sure that there is something good and wonderful about each one of you. Focus on all the good things about you. The more you focus on the good within you, the more good you will find to focus on!! Once you start using loving self-talk, then watch how it impacts those around you. If you don't speak and think in a kind way concerning yourself, how can you expect anyone else to speak and think about you that way? Time to change your old beliefs about you that no longer serve who you really are. Time to create new beliefs about you that are your truths! Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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