Rewriting the negative beliefs you have learned is the essence of becoming the director of your life. ~ Deborah Day
Do you find that you have a story of who you are playing in your head that is like a bad rated movie? It rolls across the screen with your life story and shows you being told how to act, and what to say and think. As the movie progresses, you watch in amazement as you continue to believe what you see because you watch the same movie over and over again in your mind!
In Self-talk: Reflections of Your Beliefs, I wrote about how your mind believes what you think and say about yourself. Often you are just telling yourself what you have heard people say about you. Some of the beliefs you have about YOU are so deep-rooted in you because you have heard them since birth!
The beliefs we hold within us about ourselves affect our self-esteem . . . in a negative or positive way. Someone's "innocent" comment about how you dressed when you were young could have affected your self-worth, your confidence, in a negative way and impacted your beliefs about you. At another time in your life, you were complimented and praised for the delicious cookies you baked. To this day, you feel good about anything you bake!
It is possible to change how you think and feel about yourself. Not always easy but you can do it! It is an "inside" job of looking at your beliefs, especially the core beliefs you have about YOU. Then you can decide what you feel is really true about you. What are your truths?
Take a few minutes to think about something you were told about you that just doesn't feel right. Maybe when you were younger you were told that you weren't smart. Now that you are older and you have graduated from college with a B.A. degree, you know in your heart that you have to be smart to earn a degree. Perhaps you were told that you were fat growing up. You always believed you were fat and yet, now people compliment you on how beautiful you are!
As you recognize the beliefs you have about yourself that just aren't true anymore, take time to acknowledge those beliefs. Then, in your own way, release those beliefs to make room in your mind for the new beliefs that are true about you. If some of the old beliefs try to work their way back into your mind, stop and restate them in a positive way. Verbalize out loud or in your mind the beliefs that are true for who you are at this time.
Look at what beliefs you may have about you that are not true anymore. Life happens . . . people change. You are not the same person you were a year ago let alone ten years ago!!! No one knows what is true for you except YOU. Time to start believing what you know to be true about you.
At first this may seem like "work" but you will find that it becomes easier as you feel better about who you are. The more you are conscious of your beliefs and the "movie" that is playing in your mind, the more you will be able to rewrite the script and play the part of the authentic YOU! Time for a new lead role in the movie of your life!
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