Just like the seasons, people have the ability to change. ~ Laurie Buchanan It’s that time of year! The days are shorter and the feeling of fall is in the air. The fall harvest, and especially picking apples, remind me of my grandmother’s famous apple pie. Such fond memories! For some of you, where you live the leaves are changing colors. The trees will soon be shedding their leaves in preparation for the winter. This is a natural process for the trees to be ready in the spring for new growth. Fall brings a feeling of great change for many of you. Something about the rhythm of nature affects your biological and inner core rhythms. It gives you a time to “pause” and transition from the summer to winter. This natural rhythm of the seasons reminds you of what you can do to prepare yourself for change. What can you shed to get ready for the next season in your life? Are there old tapes, beliefs or ways of being that no longer serve you? Like the trees, you may have some “leaves” that are ready to be shed. The trees shed leaves so that in the spring, a “rebirth” can happen where the old leaves use to be. What old beliefs or ways are you holding onto that are stopping your new growth? Perhaps this season of change will help you look at what needs to be shed in your life so you can move forward into “new growth”. If you are here on this Earth at this time, you are changing! Most of you can feel the changes in the world and within you. At times, it feels difficult to work through the changes. Other times, the changes just flow. Whatever is happening with you and in your world, you can be the creator of what “new” you would like in your life. Yes, you are capable and responsible for creating the life you want to live! Take a step for you, any step, even a baby step, to shed the old and then grow the new. When the winds of change blow, remember . . . sometimes what appears dead is simply preparing for a new season. ~ Jane Lee Logan Let’s look at some ways to get you started with this process. Take any area of your life – family, work, relationships, health, self-love or any aspect of your life where you want to make changes. Find about 30 minutes to do “brainstorming” about that area of your life. Several “rules” with brainstorming. You are making a list of any and everything pertaining to that subject with no thinking or judgement. After 30 minutes, look at your list and see what “jumps out at you” or feels right for you to pursue as a possibility. Here is an example of a brainstorming exercise one person did about her career. She wanted to make a change but didn’t know what to do because of her fear that she couldn’t give up a good paying job to do what she really loved! Her current position was sitting at a computer all day as a customer service rep for a large corporation. She listed all the things she would like in a career. Two things popped out when she looked at her list. She loved animals and being outdoors. She found a way to start a part-time pet sitting business on the weekends. She loved caring for and walking dogs. Soon she expanded her pet services and was busy during the week before and after her full-time job. Because she loved animals and enjoyed what she was doing, people loved her and the service she provided. Business picked up. It took time, but eventually she was able to expand her business to include part-time employees to help her. Needless to say, she is now enjoying what she does and is not sitting behind a computer all day! Gratitude for the turning of the seasons. May we attune our hearts to their enduring message of renewal. ~ Kristin Granger You can make big or small changes in any area of your life. Change is happening regardless of what you do or don’t do. Wouldn’t you like to be a part of the process of change and create what you would like in your life? As you go into fall, look for what you can shed to make room for the new. Maybe you will come up with a new recipe that becomes famous or create something else that everyone will want to have. You have gifts and talents that no one else in this world has! Believe in yourself and know that anything is possible for you! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
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Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. ~ Wayne W. Dyer Overall, how are you doing? How are you feeling? What is happening in your part of the world? Some of you have contacted me to ask why I haven’t posted a blog recently. It has only been four weeks since I wrote Your True Authentic Self but it feels like forever ago! I write as I am inspired and the past few weeks have seemed as though the days have been two hours long and not a lot gets done! There is so much going on in the world right now. Some days you can feel the stress, anxiety and irritation out in the mass consciousness. Closer to home, you may feel as though you don’t know who you are or what you are doing. Although you may feel that your world has turned upside down, if you look closely, I bet you can find some “good” in what is happening. Even in what may appear as the darkest moments in your life, what can you focus on that brings you out of the dark and into the light being motivated to move forward with your life? Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. ~ Eckhart Tolle When a relationship ends, you have to move out of your home or a job gets eliminated, it may feel like your world is falling apart. Can you look at what is happening and turn it around into something positive? You can be the victim or choose to take the experience and grow from it. Whatever you are going through, use it to be in a better place the next time. You will know what worked or didn’t work for you in the relationship that ended. You can make changes within yourself so that your new relationship will be stronger and more in alignment with who you truly are. In losing a job, think of it as freeing you to explore another job or career that may be more suited to what you love and are good at doing. In having to find a new home it gives you the opportunity to say “I’ve always wanted to live in the Northeast so I am going to look for a home there.” Major changes like these can be just what you need to get you moving in the direction you are really meant to move in. Perhaps you are not experiencing major changes but more of a daily or weekly change in one or several areas of your life. These changes can pile up on each other and begin to overwhelm you. You wonder when is it all going to end. That is where you, your attitude and the creator within you come together to make the world that you want to live in. What changes can you make that allow you to switch your world from overwhelm and frustration to one of endless, or at least several, possibilities? Look outside the box for these opportunities. Open yourself up to allow for new options. One thing is for sure, the world as we knew it, even five years ago, does not exist today! Whatever changes you are experiencing, major or small, know that they can help you get on a path of who you truly are and who you are meant to be. You can resist the changes or “go with the flow” as the changes occur. Either way, the changes will happen! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson As many of you have experienced, everything is changing and different on Earth right now. It may seem as though there is more “ugliness” out in the world based on what you see, hear and read in the media. It feels as though things held in secret for years, even decades, are being exposed and brought to the light to be dealt with . . . finally! Some of you are experiencing great change in your own personal world. Relationships ending, jobs changing, moving your home, financial concerns. Between what is happening with you and what is happening out in the world, it may be challenging some mornings for you to even get out of bed! Some of you have expressed fear about “what will happen to me?” Or, “I don’t know what to do.” It can be difficult to move forward in your life. Right now, with all that is happening around you and with you, it is important to make YOU your #1 priority!!! Your purpose is to be your true, authentic self! It is a gift you give not only yourself but everyone around you. What does that mean? First and foremost, you must be YOU! No more being who you think you should be for your parents, partner, friends, children and work colleagues. In every relationship, you must be your true self. Have you observed yourself acting as if you are like two different people? Like the chameleon, are you changing and adapting depending on whom you are talking with? Perhaps you show up being a particular version of you when you are with one person and then you are a completely different version of you when you are with someone else. It’s the time of no more secrets. Whether the truth is coming out in the bigger world or in your own personal world, the truth will continue to come out. It may seem as though this is not a “good” thing, but in the end, it is all good! We must recognize the “dark” so we can see the “light”. It also means that you must take care of you, first and foremost! If you don’t take care of you, then you won’t be in a good place to help anyone else. When you do what is right for you, with love, it is right for everyone around you. When you are not true to yourself, it affects you in many ways. It hurts you on some level emotionally, physically, mentally and even spiritually. It is time to stop being something other than who you truly are. Do you know the true you? If not, it’s time to figure that out. Are you ready to take the step to get in touch with the true you? The way you know something is true for you is how you feel about it. Your feelings are your truth. If a belief, someone or anything does not feel “right” to you, then most likely this is not lining up with you and isn't your truth. If you get a “pit” in your stomach and you almost feel sick about something, then you know that is not in alignment with your true self. If you can stay in your heart and feel about things, then you can make a heart centered decision about what is true for you. We are moving from a completely brain centered world to also including feelings from our heart centered world when making decisions. It has become more important than ever to show up as your true authentic self. Can you imagine a world with everyone being their true authentic self in every minute? There would be transparency in every relationship. What a beautiful world that would be! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. ~ Oprah Winfrey What do you speak every day? Not what is your native language but what and how do you speak. What words do you use in the workplace, with your friends and family? Are you authentically you in your conversations with others? Are you speaking your truth? Or, are you saying what you believe the person wants to hear from you? At times you may find yourself being very careful what you say to someone. You don’t want to offend or upset the person. You pick and choose your words. You aren’t necessarily lying to the person yet you are not being completely truthful either! I’m sure there have been times when you were very concerned about what to say to a person. Perhaps you weren’t sure how they would take what you had to say. You felt they may not hear what you were saying with the message that you intended. Communication can be tricky at times. Everyone comes from a different perspective because of their own life experiences. How you say something and your body language can also greatly impact how the message is received. Writing is another form of speaking. In the current times, it can be even trickier than speaking with someone. Tests and emails can be easily misread. Something you might want to consider when you are “speaking with writing." Your health can be affected by what you do and do not say. When what you say does not line up with your truth, it can affect your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. The stress of not speaking your truth can be obvious as well as very subtle. Either way, it still causes stress! When you speak your truth from your heart, it is beneficial not only for you but also the person you are speaking with. When you first speak about something and you speak your truth with love, there is no chance later that you will have to remember the “half-truth” you told earlier. There is stress caused simply by trying to remember exactly what you told the person in the first place. Best to speak your truth! You should feel comfortable speaking your truth no matter what situation you find yourself in. No matter what you feel or say about something, it will not “line up” with everyone. So why not speak truth as you know so it is good for you? Find someone you trust that you can practice speaking your truth in a “safe space”. A place where you know that you will not be judged or criticized for what you have to say about something. Speak from your heart in a kind way knowing that this is healthy for you on so many levels. Telling someone the truth is a loving act. ~ Mai Pancoas People come in and out of our lives. Wouldn’t you rather spend your life with people who honor you and your opinion even if they don’t agree with you? Love yourself enough to be true to yourself. Then take that truth and speak with others, in love, with love. Wouldn’t it be a much different world if we all would speak our truth in the language of love? Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. ~ Walt Disney What if you had a dream that you could make real? How would you feel? What would you do? Inside you is something special and unique. You have talents and abilities that no one else has. The time is right, the time is now, for you to bring those gifts out into the world! I can hear you saying to yourself “I don’t have or do anything special. I don’t know what she is talking about!” I would have to disagree with you. Everyone on this planet is different. Even identical twins are not exactly the same! Because you are special in your own way, you have strengths, qualities and skills that no one else has! You have your own “one of a kind” gifts. What if you had all the resources in the world available to you for free or at a reasonable price? How would you feel? What would you do? It really is true that there is an unlimited amount of resources out there for you to have and use. It is a matter of being willing to look for them and being open to find them in some of the most unlikely places! It’s not always about having money to buy what you need. Often someone has something you need to make your dream come true. I have a philosophy of asking for something knowing that the worse the person can tell me is “no”. It never fails me when I ask; I often get a “yes” more times than I get a “no”. Perhaps you have something that you can trade with the person to get what you need. It is becoming more and more popular to share with others and they in turn share with you. Why pay for something you will use perhaps once when someone else has what you need and is very willing to share it with you. Get out of the box! There is more to the world than what you know and see. The resources are there . . . look beyond the box! What if everything fell into place for you? How would you feel? What would you do? Share your dream with people you trust and who are supportive of you. When you start to take steps, even baby steps, to make your dream real, a sure sign you are on the right path is when things start to fall into place. If you are making any progress, trust that things will work out. Sometimes things don’t move as quickly as you would like. Things just may not be lined up for the Highest and Best possible outcome in that moment. It doesn’t mean things won’t work out. If you continue on and can see some progress, don’t give up. Let go and surrender. Allow for things to fall into place for you. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt What if you were unstoppable? How would you feel? What would you do? If you knew you would be successful in making your dream a reality, what is stopping you? In trying, you have already succeeded! The only time you truly fail is when you don’t even try. Not everything will turn out the way you anticipated. That is okay. When something doesn’t turn out exactly the way you expected; often it turns out to be a “good” thing. The only thing stopping you from making your dreams true is you! Step out of your way. Step onto the path of believing in yourself. You can make your dreams come true! How does that feel? What will you do? Special note: It was last year on July 31 that I posted my first blog. Over the course of the past year, I have heard from many of you that “these blogs felt like they were written just for you." Thank you for your feedback and encouragement! I would like to continue supporting as many of you as possible by writing about topics that interest you or, that you feel you need some support to make changes in your life. Please comment below or email me at julie@aboutlifewellness.com with topics you would like for me to write about. Thank you for your ideas and suggestions. Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
“Choose being kind over being right and you’ll be right every time.” ~ Richard Carlson It happens to all of us. We get in a discussion with a friend, colleague, family member or even a stranger, and you have a different point of view than the other person about what is being discussed. Sometimes it may not be a discussion but more of a heated argument! It seems as though it is human nature, in most incidents, that each person in the discussion has to prove their point and be right! It’s as if neither person will budge even a little from their thoughts and perspectives about the topic being discussed. They’re so set in what they think and believe, nothing will make them change their mind! It is fact that everyone has their own opinion and truth about things, events and people. We can agree or disagree on many topics and beliefs with others but we still have our own perspective based on what we have experienced in our life. Our uniqueness, truths and beliefs are an important thread of the fabric of humanity. Yes, it is very important that you are who you are and believe what you believe based on what is true for you. And, it is just as important that we remember that each person has their own truths. It doesn’t make them any more “right” than you and vice versa. Each thread of the fabric is important or else the fabric will unravel. The next time you find yourself in a discussion with someone and you do not agree with them, could you stop for a minute and listen to what they are saying? I mean really listen to what they are telling you. You don’t have to agree with everything being stated but you do have the choice to listen with an open mind and heart. You know what your life has been like and there is not one other person who has walked in your shoes to know exactly what you have experienced and felt. The same is true for everyone you meet. What if you take a moment to hear what they are saying and see if you can learn something new? What if you can expand your understanding of the world through this person and it helps you form new beliefs or truths for you? Stand up for what you believe in and what is true for you. That’s admirable. As you do this, though, don’t be so “right” and so closed minded that you cannot even think that there may be another “right” side to consider. We can’t know everything about everything . . . no one knows everything! If you understand that everyone has a different perspective based on what they have experienced in their life, then you might consider the following statement to be true. There is your side of the story, their side of the story and perhaps a different, truer side of the story neither one of you has considered! The next time you find yourself in a discussion with someone and you have very different points of view, perhaps you can choose to step back and listen with an open heart to what the other person is saying. You still don’t have to agree with them. You can continue to believe what you feel is correct for you. Maybe when all is said and done, though, it won’t be about who was right or wrong. It will be about who went to the greater length to consider the other person’s perspective. You each hold an important thread of the fabric. You can choose to strengthen those threads by being remembered for caring enough to listen to the other person. Or, you can argue your point to prove you are “right”. What do you choose? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
You cannot change anyone, but you can be the reason someone changes. ~ Roy T. Bennett Do you know someone who has said something like “when she quits drinking” or “when he gets married”, he or she will be a better person? They assume they really know the person and what is right for them, what will make them a “better” person. We can never really know what is best for another person or totally understand what is going on in their life. Every day you interact with other people - your family, friends, strangers or work colleagues. Most people have a lot going on in their lives and it is not always easy for you to figure out what is happening with them. In these interactions, you may feel as though you know what is most beneficial for them. We all do it . . . we offer help or advice believing we know what is best for the person. You may do this thinking you are helping them. No one knows what’s best for another person. Only that person knows what is best for them. What if instead of trying to understand or change someone else, you looked at what is going on with you and your life? You haven’t walked in someone else’s shoes so you don’t have all the facts and emotions of what their life has been like. You do know, however, firsthand what your life has been like! When you work on you and make changes within you, you affect everyone around you! Create positive change for yourself and you help others see the possibility for change within themselves. As you understand yourself more fully, it may help the people in your life understand more about themselves. Have you ever been in a discussion with someone and neither one of you can agree on anything being said? The conversation seems to escalate to a point where both of you are speaking with a loud voice in a tone that adds ‘fuel to the fire”. The discussion soon becomes a yelling match. What if, instead, you “stepped back” from the discussion, took a deep breath and then spoke in a more loving, calm voice? It is possible to change your vibration and frequency toward this person and greatly affect the tone of the discussion. You may still not agree with the other person but you will feel a lot better about talking with them from that place of peace and love. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. ~ Wayne W. Dyer I have experienced for myself that when I am irritated and agitated with someone and we are talking, that person seems to get irritated and agitated with me. It’s like a vicious cycle! They are matching the vibration and frequency of what I am giving out. Once I realize this and change what I am projecting out from me, the tone of the discussion changes. When I consciously change my thoughts and feelings about the person and come from a more loving perspective, it never fails me. That person changes their attitude toward me! I’ve had many people in relationships tell me they wish their partner would change this or that about themselves. My response is “one of the best ways to change another person is to makes changes with yourself.” You can’t change another person but you can change YOU! You can’t change others. You can only change yourself but that will change how others respond to you. ~ Springwolf You have the power to change yourself, your life, which in turn changes your world including the people in it! Make the changes to be the person you wish to be or to live the live you desire. Open the door, walk through it and lead the way for others to change. You can do it! Be the reason for change! Thank you for liking, sharing and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
When something really matters, you should never give up or give in. ~ Gordon Brown Have you ever really thought or felt about what matters to you? Are you passionate about something? Is there something in your life that brings you joy? In the busy-ness of life, it is easy to lose touch with what really matters. If it was just you and you had no responsibilities, what would you do? What is important to you? What really matters? Some of you would say that your health and wellness matters the most. Someone might say the adventure and magic of traveling, visiting new places feeds their soul. You might say that your awakening, your realization that you are more than what you see in the mirror, is a path that really matters to you. If you have never really contemplated what matters to you, take some time to just “sit or be” with what your heart is telling you. Regardless of your age or what is happening in your life, get in touch with that inner knowing. Go within and ask yourself “What really matters to me at this time on my life journey?” Once you have established one or several things that would make “your heart sing” even at the thought of doing them, then it is time to come up with a plan to incorporate them into your daily life. Those of you who feel you are in a rut, don’t feel joy or feel hopeless with your day-to-day existence, then this is especially important for you. I know you are busy, but could you find a way to commit even 30 minutes a day to you? You might be thinking “There is no way I have even 15 minutes in my day to do something for me!” I would challenge you to make YOU your #1 priority and find time to nurture you, your soul. Could you wake up 30 minutes earlier or take 30 minutes before you go to bed for yourself? What about taking a break during the day? Or how about when you transition from work to home, you take some time for yourself. One mom told me that when she took time for herself, she was a better mother, wife and person. Because of the demands of being a working mom with a busy family, she woke up 30 minutes earlier before anyone else was awake. This was her special quiet time every day that was just for her. A professional single mother told me she would take time on her lunch hour for herself. She knew her child was being cared for at daycare. And, she was able to leave the demands of work behind during that time. Sometimes she would workout, or sit outside and read the latest book that had her attention or attend a lunch focus group about a local issue she was passionate about. She was able to focus on just herself and what mattered to her. What was interesting, she felt her performance was better at work on the days she did this. She also felt this helped her be a better mother. I love the analogy of when you are flying on a plane and there is an emergency. If you are flying with someone that would need your assistance to put on their oxygen mask, you are told to put your oxygen mask on first. If you pass out from lack of oxygen, you are not going be able to help anyone! You have to take care of you by putting on your oxygen mask before you can help others. Take time to do what matters to you, what you care about. What a wonderful way to love and take care of yourself. When you take care of you, it is a gift you give yourself and everyone around you. It is not being selfish!!! As you take time to do what you are passionate about and what brings you joy, you can then allow that to flow to others. Do what really matters to you. What a gift! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
The best way to predict the future is to create it. ~ Peter Drucker Are you on autopilot from the time the alarm goes off till you fall into bed at the end of your day? Do you go through the motions hoping you will make it through the day? Then you wake up the next day to find you are going through the same process all over again! You can choose how you go through the day. You can unconsciously move through the day or be a conscious creator. “What,” you say, “me a creator?” Yes, YOU are a creator! You have the power to create your day. Creation starts with the present moment. The more you are conscious in the NOW moment, your imagination, creativity and intuition can be focused on just that moment. That is where the magic can happen! Creation can begin from the heart center. Have you ever done something that you didn’t even have to think about doing it? You just did it because it felt good. You followed what some people call your gut feeling, your intuition, that inner knowing. You followed what felt right to you and went for it. Everyone has that inner guidance system, everyone! Intuition is your inner GPS. It helps you and guides you on the road we call life. It’s technology you have always had but in the world we live in now, it is being used more and more. And like all technology, it gets upgrades from time to time. The more you use your intuition, the stronger it gets. Take a moment and recall something you did where you trusted your gut, your intuition. Did it go as well as you thought it would? Not so well? Was it better than you imagined? If you listed ten times when you trusted your inner knowing, I feel certain you would find that most of the time things turned out very well. Humanity is moving from a “thinking” world to more of a “feeling” world. No, you aren’t going to stop using your brain! You will find, though, that thinking and rethinking about something does not help you. When you can move to a place of asking yourself “How do I feel about ABC?” and seeing how you feel, then you are getting answers from your heart. You are tapping into your intuition. When you know something feels right, it lines up with you. That is such a powerful point of creation. Trusting your gut feeling, your inner knowing, is a beautiful starting place to create your world. You are the best authority for what would be most beneficial for you. All the answers for you are within you. Try an experiment this week. Pick any day and as you make decisions during that day, ask yourself, “How do I feel about what I am deciding to do?” “How do I feel about what I am creating with the decision I am making?” How do I feel about skipping breakfast versus eating something healthy to start my day? How do I feel about putting my name into the hat for project XYZ at work? How do I feel about having lunch with my friend today? How do I feel about working late versus having dinner with my family? Feel into every decision that day. Let your heart do the guiding rather than your brain. What feels best for you? Trust your inner guidance. Time for the master creator to help you create a life you love! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size. ~ Carl Jung How is your life going? Things flowing for you? Or, do you have something going on that is draining your energy and causing you to feel not so well? Life happens! You are human. People and events are often not in your control. You have what you feel are good days and then some that are not so good. You do the best you can but you may not like what is happening. Have you found that the more you resist or deny what is going on, the worse it seems to get? Many of you have heard the saying “What you resist, persists!” The more you fight or struggle with something, the more it seems to show up in your life and cause you distress. This stress can cause symptoms in your physical, mental and emotional bodies. You have the power to transform all of this. You are just one thought away from changing the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness you may be experiencing. Yes, just one thought could change everything for you! Let’s look at an example. Where you work, the schedule has been cut back and overtime has been eliminated. You were counting on working overtime to have extra money to repair your car that is not running. When you find out that overtime has been eliminated, you get upset. You blame the company for not having a working, dependable car because they cut back on overtime. You get mad and angry with the company or your boss because you will not be able to earn extra money. The more you complain, blame and get angry about your situation, you are resisting what is. What if you took a different approach? Instead you could say “I need money to repair my car.” Period. That’s it. It is what it is . . . accept that. Stop allowing it to paralyze you. If you don’t, it will be difficult for you to do anything about it. You will struggle to find a way out of what is going on if you continue to resist it. Accept it. Release it and then move forward. Once you let go of all those negative feelings about what is happening “to you”, you open the door for more positive solutions to come to you. By accepting what is, you are freeing yourself up to find a solution. Now you are one thought away from changing your situation. It is common to blame someone or something for what is happening in your life. When you can understand that it is your thoughts that are at the root of what you perceive to be happening to you, then you are able to change everything in your life! Your thoughts are making you feel the way you do . . . not anyone or anything else. When you experience something, you have a thought about it. Can you find something, anything about what is happening and think a positive thought about it? Rather than think negative, think positive about what is happening. Not always easy but watch how your life seems to flow more when you focus on the positive. For one week, or even just one day, do your best to find the good in everything that is happening in your life. Regardless of how devastating something may seem to you, find some good in it. I have found when I focused on even the smallest positive thought about what I was experiencing, it helped me get through some of the toughest times in my life. Your life is full of experiences and people that may cause you to have negative thoughts and feelings. You can start today to change your mindset, your life, to one that is more positive and uplifting. When you do, watch how you feel better and your life flows with more opportunities. You have the power within you to form positive thoughts and change your life. You can do this! Believe in yourself! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Does it seem that no matter where you are or what you are doing, often there is a comparison of some kind happening? From the moment a child is born, their family and society compare them. It continues through life in school, at the job and in relationships. Not only do we compare people, we compare just about everything in our life and world. We compare one sport team to another team, this diet with another diet, and even apples to oranges! Sometimes we get into a conversation, often a debate, with someone about who or what is the best. You may even find yourself having an inner dialogue comparing yourself with someone. Why do we do these comparisons? Our world tends to be dualistic. You are either right or wrong, good or bad. Things seem to appear black or white. Why does something have to be this or that? What if there was something in between that was an even better option? It is okay to look at two things, people, situations and compare them, but that doesn’t make one better than the other one. This isn’t an “either or” decision. It can be but it doesn’t have to be. Comparison can be healthy to help you see differences for what you do and do not what for yourself. It is when comparison becomes obsessive and demoralizing, that it is harmful. Comparison can hold you back. It becomes a big waste of time and energy! This may be where you may have to change some of your beliefs when making comparisons. You will have to be open to more than two possibilities of right or wrong, good or bad for what you are looking at. There is so much more than what we know is possible for us. As you become aware of looking at things differently, you open yourself up to a whole new world! What if you looked at the best of both in your comparison and came up with an even better decision, solution, answer than deciding on either one. What if you choose to view your world from a different perspective? Instead of living in a black and white world, you added some color to your world. You can use comparison to better yourself if done in a helpful way. You can take your gifts and combine them with bits and pieces of what you perceive is great about someone else. As you do this, remember though, you will never, ever be that person. You can only be you showing up as the best possible version of you! Have you thought about comparing where you are in your life compared to where you use to be? Look at where you started and all that you have accomplished. Perhaps there is more you would like to accomplish. That is a comparison that can be healthy for you. You are comparing you to you! A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms. Zen Shin No two flowers are the same, yet each is beautiful and unique in its own way! And so it is with you. There is only one special, one of a kind, you! Rather than compare yourself to others, look for the beautiful gifts that only you possess. Thank you for adding your beautiful colors to the world! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean. ~ Tony Robbins Many of you reading this blog have carried a heavy load of what I would call “incorrect beliefs”. These beliefs were formed from what your parents and family believed, what the media told you and what our society determined to be “truth”. But what are your truths, your beliefs? Your brain takes in everything you experience and everything that you are exposed to. Your brain does not know the difference between what is your truth and the truth of someone else. Your brain is full of beliefs and tapes that are playing that most likely are not your beliefs. When the media tells you that you need this product to be beautiful and you believe it, that is what gets programmed into your brain. You have formed a belief about you that most likely is not true. You now have a belief, whether conscious or unconscious, that drives some of your actions. These actions may not always be for your best good! It is believed that by the time children reach the age of between five and eight years old that all their beliefs are deeply embedded within them. Everything they have experienced, been told and believed is recorded in the subconscious. All of that is recorded at the age the child experienced it and has the potential to affect them throughout the rest of their life, even as adults. Can you see as an adult that some of your thoughts and actions are driven by these deeply held beliefs that were formed early in your life? These beliefs were formed through the eyes of a child and may not be the truth of who you really are now in this moment. Of course, you continue to form beliefs throughout your lifetime but these early, possibly incorrect beliefs form a foundation for many of the beliefs you have now and continue to form. Let’s say you have an older brother and you are five years old. Your mom was reading your favorite book with you and had to stop to help your brother with homework. She never came back to finish reading the book to you because your brother needed her help. His homework took a long time to finish. Now it was time to go to bed. Your mother hurriedly puts you to bed because she has so much to do before she can go to bed. From your perspective, you feel she lovingly tucks your brother in for the night. Then from your childlike point of view, you form the belief “I must not be loveable because my mother spends more time with my brother than me. She must love him and not me.” An incorrect belief is formed. As you continue your life with this belief, this tape, of “I must not be loveable. There must be something wrong with me.” Your brain is like a computer with programs running in the background. These background programs can affect all areas of your life. Your relationships, your work, your self-worth, all of that can be affected at any age based on a belief that you formed as a five-year-old. Most of you have a practice of Spring cleaning your home. Have you ever thought about Spring cleaning your brain? There are many beliefs that are holding you back or are no longer true for you. As you tend to the garden of your mind, is it time to clean up your beliefs? And, when you get rid of the old or what is no longer serving you, it makes room for the new to come in. Regardless of your age, there is no better time than now to examine what you believe to be true for you. Are your beliefs that you are not good enough or smart enough stopping you from changing careers? Starting a new hobby? Writing a book? You are good enough and you are smart enough. You can’t fail. You fail only when you don't even try. Take time to look deeply at what you have been told over the course of your life. Are there some beliefs that you have that you know are incorrect? Are you ready to let those go and run a new program in the computer of your brain? Time for an upgrade . . . a new version of you! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. ~ Marianne Williamson If I were to ask you if you live your life in love or fear, what would your answer be? In your day-to-day life, what do you base your actions, your decisions on? Love or fear? Everything comes from love or fear, everything! There is a countless number of feelings and emotions under the “umbrella” of love. The “feel good” feelings of joy, peace, optimism, trust, happiness, passion, excitement, etc. all are a form of love. They lift you up. They contribute to you feeling better about yourself and life in general. There are many “not so good” feelings and emotions that fall under the “umbrella” of fear. Anger, sadness, anxiety, disappointment, control, frustration, negativity, etc. are all a form of fear. These are the heavy emotions and feelings. If you stay in the energy of fear, you tend to not feel so good about your life and your world. It is a conscious choice in every moment how you perceive something and how you allow it to make you feel. You can look for the “good” in something and focus on that. Or, you can see only the “bad” in the same thing and focus on that aspect of it. Your choice. What do you choose to allow into your life? Some of you reading this probably are wondering if I am crazy when I asked the last question. In your mind, you don’t “allow” the negative things to happen to you. You may feel they are done “to” you. It is common to play the “blame game” with everything and everyone in your life. We all have done it, including myself when I was younger. I didn’t realize that I was responsible for how I perceived something. Now I realize I am the only one who can experience something and decide the outcome of that experience for myself. I bet you know someone who has had what you would consider a horrifying experience and they were able to find the blessings in that experience. Not always easy to focus on the good in such an experience. When you have something very personal happen in your life, would you rather look at the experience with love or fear? Knowing what you know about the “feel good” feelings of love, wouldn’t you rather live your life with those feelings and emotions? Can you understand that regardless of what has happened, you will feel better when you focus on the good in everything and everyone. You have a choice . . . feel good or feel bad. I know it is hard at times to focus on the positive with what is happening in the world around you. Life happens. There are bills to pay, health issues, job responsibilities and the list goes on. When you are experiencing something that may not be so positive, can you consciously tell yourself that you are going to find the good in what is happening? Or, can you think positive thoughts about the outcome? I can tell you that your life will feel more in the flow and positive when you are able to look for the good in your life. One other factor that may help you be more positive is the implications for your health and overall well-being. When you have negative thoughts and feelings, your physical, mental and emotional bodies are under great stress. You are setting yourself up for illness. This is a proven scientific fact. At first it may seem like a lot of work to focus on the good in your life. For some of you, it may take time for you to make this shift in your thinking and understanding. Even if you can change your feelings about one thing a day from fear to love, you are helping yourself tremendously. Make a commitment to yourself. Look for the good in everyone and everything. Do it for you! Your life, your choice . . . love or fear! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a life coach that is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. ~ Lewis B Smedes Have you ever forgiven someone for something they have done? If so, that’s wonderful! Take a minute and look at that incident. Did you forgive the person for you or for them? I have had people tell me they reluctantly have forgiven someone. They did it because they believed it would help that person in some way. Believe it or not, the best reason to forgive anyone is for YOU! Often the person you perceive you need to forgive may not even be thinking about what happened. It’s not affecting them at all but it sure may be affecting you! The more you carry the feeling of unforgiveness, the more it affects and controls you. It can show up as an illness or disease in your physical body. It may come out in the emotions of anger, fear and irritation. Forgiveness on the other hand, can reduce stress levels. This helps the body be in a calmer state and improves your health. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everyone. ~ Maya Angelo I have met individuals who have carried anger toward someone for something that happened years, decades ago. That anger has become such a part of them and affects their day-to-day life. The longer this goes on, it seems to grow into something even more “ugly” to the point of affecting the person on all levels. Your subconscious mind records everything you experience. Your age at the time determines how this is recorded into your subconscious. Something that someone did to hurt you when you were eight years old, got recorded as you experienced it then. That experience could be affecting you today as a thirty-year-old adult! I know some of you are thinking, "I can't forgive my dad for what happened. It was so real for me and hurt me deeply. It is etched in my heart and brain!" Would it be possible for you to preserve the learnings from that experience and release the trauma? If you could, it may just help you move on in your life from a better feeling place . . . physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually! Do this for you! When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. ~ Bernard Meltze I know some of you are ready to move on and wondering “How do I do this?” You may have a person or persons in mind that you feel have hurt you. Remember, this could be for something huge like a crime against you or as small as that boy in elementary school that always told you that you were ugly. I can share a process that I have used that I have found to be very powerful. Find a space where you will not be disturbed. From your heart, “be” with that person, have a conversation with that person in your mind or out loud. Whatever you need to do to connect with the person and what happened, do it. I am not asking you to relive the trauma, but more be in a place that you can forgive what happened. Start first with forgiving yourself. You are forgiving yourself for what you have done to hold on to this and what it may have done to you physically and emotionally. Hold your hands over your heart while saying “I deeply and profoundly, love, accept and forgive myself.” Continue doing this, while consciously breathing. Do this for as long as necessary till you feel a shift within you. Next, move on to the person that you want to forgive. As you continue from that place of forgiveness of yourself, forgive them. You can continue to hold your hands over your heart if you like. Imagine an infinity symbol between your heart and the person’s heart flowing love from you to them and back again. Remember, you are doing this for you, not them. When your memory of this has faded or is not as painful, you will know that you have released or changed your feelings about what happened. The picture or memory is still there but it is not triggering or controlling you anymore. You are now in a place of forgiveness. Choose to forgive. Watch how your life changes. Do it for you! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
There is no instinct like that of the heart. ~ Lord Byron Does it feel like you are experiencing a "speed up" of time? That everything is different or changing in your world? Stop for a minute and look at where you are right now in your life and where you were three to five years ago. Do you see that you, your life, is not at all the same as it used to be? For some of you, the changes that have happened in your life are exciting. For others, the changes may make you feel depressed or fearful or you name the emotion. Change can be scary or it can be exciting. Your choice how you perceive it! Certain beliefs are ingrained in us from the moment we are born. Our family, friends, society, teachers, the media and the environment condition our mind and our beliefs about everything! These beliefs may change and morph into something slightly different but they basically stay the same unless you do something to consciously change those beliefs. Earlier when you looked at where you were three to five years ago, I believe most of you would say that you “thought” about it. As some of you have experienced, you are very good at thinking and rethinking things. When you do this, you spin your wheels and don’t move forward! Have you every stopped to really look at your beliefs? When considering your beliefs, there is one simple, little change you can make. Ask yourself “How do I feel about this?” Rather than thinking and rethinking about something, you “feel” about it. Would you like to feel good about the changes, the choices, you are making in your life? You can do this when you are examining your beliefs, choices before you or any decision you have to make. In an earlier blog, Feel Good Decisions, I wrote about making decisions from a place of love for yourself. Making decisions based on what felt best for you to do. You can now take this one step further and use the “feeling” method to ask yourself if your current beliefs are still true for you. As the world changes and you go through your own changes, some of your beliefs may no longer be true for who you are now. If you are feeling like you are stuck or not moving forward in life, your beliefs may be holding you back. As an example, when you were young, everyone made fun of how you dressed. They teased you and called you ugly. You believed it. That belief became so ingrained within you it affected your self-confidence. Now at age thirty, that lack of self-confidence is affecting your work performance even though you have the most experience of anyone in your department and have won numerous work excellence awards. Regardless of your age, there is no time like the present to examine your beliefs and see if there are some you would like to change. This may seem overwhelming to you. Just take one area of your life and start with those beliefs. Only do what your heart tells you. ~ Princess Diana Some people say the feelings from their heart are God, their soul, their gut or their intuition talking to them. Regardless of what you personally call it, allow yourself to be guided by what you are feeling. Will you be right all the time? Probably not, especially at first because you will doubt yourself. The more you trust your feelings, the inner knowing, the more you will be confident that you can trust your feelings about everything in your life. Wait till you see how that feels! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you live a life you love! For more information, click the button below.
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