We are what we believe we are. ~ C.S. Lewis
Your mind believes what it is told and you are what you believe. The quote above by C.S. Lewis speaks volumes! Do you believe what others tell you about you? Or, do you believe what you know to be true for you?
You have experienced how it feels when someone gives you a compliment. You also know how it feels when an inconsiderate person puts you down and says ugly things about you. Even though, in most cases, the person is reflecting onto you how they feel about themselves, your mind doesn't know any different. Your mind takes this all in and believes what it is told.
Whether words are spoken, written or in your thoughts, they have power. You can't control what others think or say about you, but you can control what you think and say about yourself. Your innermost thoughts about YOU affect you on every level of your being. What is your self-talk saying about you?
Before going on, take a minute and write down five things you believe about yourself. You probably believe these five things because you have heard them over and over again throughout your life. When you have your five beliefs listed, look at them. I would guess that some things you wrote down could be perceived as negative. "I'm not very smart. I'm fat. No one would love someone like me."
Looking at these five beliefs may make you feel sad or angry but it is possible to change those beliefs. Within you is the ability to change what you believe about yourself. You can't depend on others to build you up with compliments and praise. YOU are the only person you can depend on!
The thoughts spinning around your mind have the capacity to make or break you. You have the power within you to make changes in what you believe. In general, it can be human nature to think negatively. More and more people are now doing their best to be more positive. You can too!
Try this. When you think or say something negative about yourself, stop in that moment, and rephrase it into something more positive. "I'm fat" becomes "Now that I am eating healthier and taking a walk almost every day, I know that my body will slim down." It is not always easy to think or speak positive all the time. Once you start being conscious of the words you use when you speak about yourself, it will become easier.
Take an inventory of the words that you say or think about yourself. Would you say the same thing to your partner, your child or a friend? If not, why would you say them to yourself? Get in the habit of using kind and loving words when speaking or thinking about yourself.
I am sure that there is something good and wonderful about each one of you. Focus on all the good things about you. The more you focus on the good within you, the more good you will find to focus on!!
Once you start using loving self-talk, then watch how it impacts those around you. If you don't speak and think in a kind way concerning yourself, how can you expect anyone else to speak and think about you that way? Time to change your old beliefs about you that no longer serve who you really are. Time to create new beliefs about you that are your truths!
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