Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make, makes you. Choose wisely. ~ Roy T. Bennett When the word relationship is mentioned in a conversation, you probably think about the relationship you have with a partner, spouse, child, family member or friend. Have you ever stopped to think about your relationship with money, your work, the environment and just about everything in your world? You are in relationship with everyone and everything around you. How you think and feel about something or someone, affects that relationship. Whether you realize it or not, you are “broadcasting” how you feel about something by the way you talk about it or even think about it. Your body language, your energy frequency, about a particular subject or person is sent out from you. You don’t even have to speak a word and people around you can sense how you think or feel about them or what is being discussed. I am sure some of you reading this have witnessed someone who walked into a room and you could feel their presence fill the room. They didn’t say a word or do anything except walk into the room. And, yet, everyone in the room could tell that something was different and the energy or the feeling in the room had changed. This feeling in the room may or may not have been “good” but yet it was felt because everything is energy and you are energy. You felt the change in energy when that person walked into the room. Have you ever noticed that when you are irritated with someone and you speak with them, often they get irritated with you? They pick up on what you are feeling and you are affecting them. It’s a vicious cycle that goes nowhere and does not serve you or the other person. You can participate in the “blame game” and say it is not about you and the other person’s “fault”. Many times in relationships, the other person is reflecting back to you something about you. You can’t change the other person but you can change you. Knowing this, is there something you can change about you that would help the relationship be more in ease and enjoyable? I have been blessed to have worked with many wonderful people over the course of my life. I am grateful that I can get along with just about every person I come in contact with. However, there was one person who was difficult for me to work with who happened to also be my boss. My relationship with my boss was affecting how I felt about my position, my career. I didn’t want to leave my job because I loved what I was doing. I knew I had to find a way to be in this work relationship that would be beneficial for me. I realized I had to focus on the good in the relationship with my boss and not let the “bad” affect how I felt. I did not want all that bad to come back to me. I made a list of the good qualities of my boss and focused on those aspects. I made a conscious effort to not allow what I didn’t like about her to affect me. After about a month, I noticed that she was friendlier and kinder to me. Once I changed my attitude, my boss changed. I still did not agree with many things about her but I was able to stay in the job I loved and soon she was moved to another position. I am glad I was able to change my feelings rather than be irritated and angry in that relationship. This week, pay attention when you feel yourself getting irritated about something or with someone. Step back and ask yourself why are you irritated. Can you change how you look at the situation and get into a better feeling place? Try this and see how your relationships improve because you are willing to make changes with how you feel about the people and events in your life. Often a small shift in your feelings can make a big difference! It is your choice. You can choose to be irritated with a person, your job, where you live, your money or whatever it is and be miserable. Or, you can choose to find something good to focus on in the relationship and feel better within yourself. We all have a choice . . . what do you choose in your relationships? Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. ~ Oscar Wilde Why is it that you can love others but it is not always so easy to love yourself? Loving others comes very easily and naturally to many of you. Even those of you who have not experienced much love in your life, you can still find a way to show love and be loving with other people. I was never taught about self-love. Were you? I believe our society use to have the mindset that if you thought about yourself first, you were either selfish or narcissist. It is now known that it is important to take care of yourself, first, so that you can be in a better place to help others. In the world we live in, if we each took time to love ourselves, can you imagine what the world would be like? It is important to fill yourself up to overflowing and then allow that overflow to go out to others. When you love yourself, you form the foundation for all the other relationships in your life as mentioned in my last blog, Your #1 Relationship . . . YOU. Let’s look at some practical ways to help you take that first step on the road of self-love. You can choose to do one of these self-love practices or several at one time. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Just start doing something to love yourself and anchor that love within you. Accept yourself . . . warts and allYes, you have read this before in an earlier blog but it is important to repeat here. Until you can accept you, all of you, it will be difficult to completely love you. Stop comparing yourself to others. You can never be someone else or even be completely like anyone else! You are unique and special in your own way and that is beautiful. Celebrate who you are! Stop beating yourself upHave you ever stopped to listen to what you tell yourself on a daily or even hourly basis? We are usually our worst critic. Stop saying negative things, out loud or in your mind, about yourself. Your body and mind are constantly listening to what you are saying. Soon all those negative things you have said about yourself will be programmed into you. Become more aware of what you are thinking and saying about yourself. Would you say these same things to someone you love? Stop yourself every time you realize what you are saying is negative and turn it into something positive. “I am so fat” becomes “I am taking walks and eating better so I know I will lose weight and be healthier.” Schedule time to do what brings you joyI have worked with people who felt silly scheduling time for themselves and for most, it was the hardest thing for them to do. Everyone seems to be so busy with life. For this reason, I suggest they block out a time in their schedule to do something they enjoy. Love to take walks, schedule 30 minutes at least 2-3 times a week to take a walk. Love to have coffee with a friend, set aside time in your schedule to meet your friend for coffee. Give yourself permission to take time for what makes you happy. Even if you only feel you can schedule time for you once a week, start there. As you see the benefits of taking time for you, you will find even more ways to schedule time for you. Take time for self-carePart of loving yourself is taking good care of you, all of you! Start by treating yourself as the precious spirit that you are. No matter what your resources are, you can find a way to nurture yourself. Consider healthy nutrition, getting enough sleep, exercise and time with family and friends. All of this may seem like a lot to do but it can be incorporated into your daily routine. Look at your spiritualityRegardless of a religion or system you believe in, your spirituality comes from a different perspective. It comes from within you. It is your beliefs, feelings, emotions, those “inner knowings” that are your truths. It is looking at what is true for you . . . the truth within you. Take time to sit and just be with yourself as you examine your truths. Allow this part of you to “speak” to you and guide you in the journey of self-love. For some of you, it is time to listen to the wise part of you that knows you better than anyone else! We all desire to love and be loved. Why not start with yourself? You will find that as you take time to be loving with yourself, that love flows out to everyone around you. When you love yourself, it is a gift you give not only to yourself, but to everyone around you. Thank you for that gift! Thank you for sharing, liking and commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections. ~ Sandra Bierig If you are like many people, you have a whole list of things you wish were different about you. How many times have you thought to yourself "I wish I were smarter or thinner or had prettier hair"? For whatever reason, we tend to be our own worst critic! It's time now to embrace all those aspects of you that you wish were different. In my last blog, Imperfectly Perfect You, you were "let off the hook" of being perfect. If you no longer have the pressure of being perfect, "being different" just might feel comfortable to you. Can you now accept that which cannot be changed and take steps to change that which can be changed? A big part of this is acceptance of yourself. Can you see through the so called "imperfections" and love yourself? No matter what you think or feel about yourself, there is something good and wonderful about each one of you reading this. I have found when I focus on the good, I see more of the good. Rather than focus on your "imperfections," focus on all the great things about YOU! We all have "imperfections" and that is what makes each one of us special. Many of you have heard me say "you have to love and accept yourself, warts and all." I know you don't have any warts! Think of them as imperfections. You have to love yourself, imperfections and all. You have to love and accept yourself, warts and all! How many of you have allowed your imperfections to hold you back? Have you said "I'm not creative enough to paint beautiful pictures" or "I'm not good at this or that so why bother trying to do it?" You are allowing the voice of your ego to dictate what you will and will not do. Time now for the true you to tell you what to do and be! Take a moment to think of something you have always wanted to do but never did because you didn't think you had the skills or were good enough to do it. Now get into your heart center and feel what it would be like doing that particular thing you didn't think you could do. Does it make your heart sing when you feel into the possibility of you doing it? Now that you have identified what it is you have always wanted to do but never did, you can take steps to make that happen. Any step, no matter how small, is a statement to yourself that you believe in you! Believe in yourself! What would you do if you knew you would not fail? In trying, you have succeeded, regardless of the outcome. Small successes are so much more than no successes because you did not even try. A successful person has failed so many more times than a person who has not even tried. The knowledge you gain from a so called "failure" can be turned into a beneficial success. Perhaps you always wanted to learn how to paint with acrylics. You could check out books from the library about how to paint, take a beginning acrylic painting class or watch YouTube videos that show the different painting techniques. Each painting you do is one creative step closer to painting the beautiful picture you always dreamed you would paint some day! Each one of your carries an important piece of the fabric of the world we live in. It would not be the same without you here. Yes, you have "imperfections". Embrace them! Know there is perfection in your imperfections. Love yourself . . . warts and all! Thank you for sharing, liking or commenting below about this blog. Feedback is always welcome. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The worst decisions in life we make are always the one we make out of fear. ~ Sherrilyn Kenyon It seems as though we are always making decisions. It can be something as simple as deciding what to eat or as life changing as deciding to take a new job. There is a process that goes on within us that we don't often realize is happening when we make decisions. Sometimes it's as if you are paralyzed for days trying to make a decision. Other times, it only takes a second to say "yes"! Yet, underlying every decision you make is the root emotion of love or fear. Yes, every decision! In Finding Rainbows Within Change, I talked about how change can be good, and not that "scary monster under the bed." Now look a little deeper into the decisions you are making and the changes you are experiencing. What is driving those decisions and changes? Recall a decision you have made sometime in your life that had a huge impact on you, regardless if you felt the outcome was positive or negative. Feel into that decision and be honest with yourself. Did you make that decision from a place of love or fear? Let's consider the last job you were offered at the company you work for. It was a promotion but the position didn't excite you. You made the decision to take the promotion based on the fear that if you didn't take it, you might never be offered a promotion again. What if, instead, you made the decision not to take that particular position? You knew in your heart it would be difficult for you to perform the job duties day after day because it did not excite you. It could have the potential in the long run of hurting your chances for further promotions due to your performance in a job you really didn't like. In saying "no" to this job offer, your decision would have come from love . . . love for yourself! Your decision would be to do what you felt was best for you. You could also find a way to tell your employer "no" that would still leave the door open for future promotions. Let me share a tool with you that has helped many of my Life Coaching clients. Try this even if only for a day. Every time you make a decision, regardless how small or big, ask yourself, "How does this decision make me feel?" Or, "How do I feel about this decision?" Stay out of your head and in your heart. We all have made decisions to do something that didn't feel quite right. We did it anyway because of being afraid this or that would happen if we didn't do it. In the end, many times, we wish we had decided not to do it. Life is a consent decision making process. I don't know anyone who feels they have made the "right" decision every time. However, if you can make your decisions from that "feel good" place of love, perhaps it will put you on the path of making better decisions. Dig deep within you. Have the courage to make a decision based on what you feel is right for you rather than what you think you should do or what others want or expect of you. Only you can decide what is best for you! Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
The world as we created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking. ~ Albert Einstein Why is it that throughout our life, things happen and then we find our life to be completely different? Sometimes we know change is coming. Other times, boom out of nowhere and with no warning, change is thrust upon us! It seems that people, in general, struggle with change. What if change really is a good thing and not that scary monster that many people believe change to be? If you are here on Earth, you are constantly changing whether you recognize it or not. You can't be living here and not change. You may be reading this and thinking to yourself, "I have been doing the same job for the last ten years while married to the same person living in the same town. Nothing has changed in my life." Every day you are changed and shaped into a new version of you. You are not the same person you were even a year ago! Changes can happen through your experiences, the people you interact with, what you read and what you hear on TV. Stop reading this and take a moment to look back over the past ten years of your life. Look at where you were and where you are now. Look at all areas of your life. Was it difficult to go through change any time during those the years? As you do this, note what you have accomplished and what you might have done differently. Really notice how much you have changed. Some of you have felt the changes and were aware of what the changes meant for your life. Some of you didn't realize how much you have changed till you looked at it in this moment. After looking at all of this, is it possible now to understand that as difficult as change can be, it is often a "good" thing? At times when we are in the middle of change, we can't see the rainbow at the end of the change. As you go through change, look for some good in the change. Focus on the "good" part of the change to help you see your rainbow. As a Life Coach, I have had many people tell me that they can feel change right at their fingertips but they didn't quite know what those changes are. Some people are ready to make changes and don't know what steps to take to change their life. As we develop a plan to help them change, I ask them to consider "What if change is good?" Often that helps them embrace change rather than resist change. How about you, are you going through change? Ready for change? Would you like to flow through change? If so, perhaps the first step to change is to embrace the idea that . . . change is good! Comment below to let other readers know what you do to help you deal with changes in your life. Are you ready to live the life you desire and deserve? Julie Wilson is a Life Coach who is dedicated to help you be the best possible version of YOU! For more information, click the button below.
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