The worst decisions in life we make are always the one we make out of fear. ~ Sherrilyn Kenyon
It seems as though we are always making decisions. It can be something as simple as deciding what to eat or as life changing as deciding to take a new job. There is a process that goes on within us that we don't often realize is happening when we make decisions.
Sometimes it's as if you are paralyzed for days trying to make a decision. Other times, it only takes a second to say "yes"! Yet, underlying every decision you make is the root emotion of love or fear. Yes, every decision!
In Finding Rainbows Within Change, I talked about how change can be good, and not that "scary monster under the bed." Now look a little deeper into the decisions you are making and the changes you are experiencing. What is driving those decisions and changes?
Recall a decision you have made sometime in your life that had a huge impact on you, regardless if you felt the outcome was positive or negative. Feel into that decision and be honest with yourself. Did you make that decision from a place of love or fear?
Let's consider the last job you were offered at the company you work for. It was a promotion but the position didn't excite you. You made the decision to take the promotion based on the fear that if you didn't take it, you might never be offered a promotion again.
What if, instead, you made the decision not to take that particular position? You knew in your heart it would be difficult for you to perform the job duties day after day because it did not excite you. It could have the potential in the long run of hurting your chances for further promotions due to your performance in a job you really didn't like.
In saying "no" to this job offer, your decision would have come from love . . . love for yourself! Your decision would be to do what you felt was best for you. You could also find a way to tell your employer "no" that would still leave the door open for future promotions.
Let me share a tool with you that has helped many of my Life Coaching clients. Try this even if only for a day. Every time you make a decision, regardless how small or big, ask yourself, "How does this decision make me feel?" Or, "How do I feel about this decision?" Stay out of your head and in your heart.
We all have made decisions to do something that didn't feel quite right. We did it anyway because of being afraid this or that would happen if we didn't do it. In the end, many times, we wish we had decided not to do it.
Life is a consent decision making process. I don't know anyone who feels they have made the "right" decision every time. However, if you can make your decisions from that "feel good" place of love, perhaps it will put you on the path of making better decisions.
Dig deep within you. Have the courage to make a decision based on what you feel is right for you rather than what you think you should do or what others want or expect of you. Only you can decide what is best for you!
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