It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean. ~ Tony Robbins
Many of you reading this blog have carried a heavy load of what I would call “incorrect beliefs”. These beliefs were formed from what your parents and family believed, what the media told you and what our society determined to be “truth”. But what are your truths, your beliefs?
Your brain takes in everything you experience and everything that you are exposed to. Your brain does not know the difference between what is your truth and the truth of someone else. Your brain is full of beliefs and tapes that are playing that most likely are not your beliefs.
When the media tells you that you need this product to be beautiful and you believe it, that is what gets programmed into your brain. You have formed a belief about you that most likely is not true. You now have a belief, whether conscious or unconscious, that drives some of your actions. These actions may not always be for your best good!
It is believed that by the time children reach the age of between five and eight years old that all their beliefs are deeply embedded within them. Everything they have experienced, been told and believed is recorded in the subconscious. All of that is recorded at the age the child experienced it and has the potential to affect them throughout the rest of their life, even as adults.
Can you see as an adult that some of your thoughts and actions are driven by these deeply held beliefs that were formed early in your life? These beliefs were formed through the eyes of a child and may not be the truth of who you really are now in this moment. Of course, you continue to form beliefs throughout your lifetime but these early, possibly incorrect beliefs form a foundation for many of the beliefs you have now and continue to form.
Let’s say you have an older brother and you are five years old. Your mom was reading your favorite book with you and had to stop to help your brother with homework. She never came back to finish reading the book to you because your brother needed her help. His homework took a long time to finish.
Now it was time to go to bed. Your mother hurriedly puts you to bed because she has so much to do before she can go to bed. From your perspective, you feel she lovingly tucks your brother in for the night. Then from your childlike point of view, you form the belief “I must not be loveable because my mother spends more time with my brother than me. She must love him and not me.” An incorrect belief is formed.
As you continue your life with this belief, this tape, of “I must not be loveable. There must be something wrong with me.” Your brain is like a computer with programs running in the background. These background programs can affect all areas of your life. Your relationships, your work, your self-worth, all of that can be affected at any age based on a belief that you formed as a five-year-old.
Most of you have a practice of Spring cleaning your home. Have you ever thought about Spring cleaning your brain? There are many beliefs that are holding you back or are no longer true for you. As you tend to the garden of your mind, is it time to clean up your beliefs? And, when you get rid of the old or what is no longer serving you, it makes room for the new to come in.
Regardless of your age, there is no better time than now to examine what you believe to be true for you. Are your beliefs that you are not good enough or smart enough stopping you from changing careers? Starting a new hobby? Writing a book? You are good enough and you are smart enough. You can’t fail.
You fail only when you don't even try.
Take time to look deeply at what you have been told over the course of your life. Are there some beliefs that you have that you know are incorrect? Are you ready to let those go and run a new program in the computer of your brain? Time for an upgrade . . . a new version of you!
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